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Browse this sub-directory of Guy Finley's top self-improvement and spirituality articles, poetry, and inspiration quotes by Guy Finley

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  • Free Yourself by Seeing Yourself: 9 Ways to Heal the Hidden Hurting in You (Writing - 2/22/03)

    Consciousness of any unwanted condition in us must precede its correction, just as the rising sun dismisses the fear hiding in the darkness of night.

  • Resentment (Writing - 2/23/03)

    Letting go of painful resentments.

  • Forgiveness (Writing - 2/23/03)

    Finding forgiveness in being forgiven.

  • Blame Game (Writing - 2/23/03)

    There is no profit in blaming your lot in life on other people or an uncaring world. Escape the dark punishing captivity inherent in blame.

  • Compassion (Writing - 2/1/04)

    Guy Finley discusses what it means to have forgiveness and compassion for others, and the evidence of God's compassion for this world through request and response.

  • Breaking Out of the Circle of Conflict (Writing - 5/18/04)

    Guy Finley explains that choosing to bear, rather than reciprocate, the pain of others, is the only way to end the circle of suffering.

  • Start Seeing Through the Blame Game (Writing - 7/26/04)

    The question of why we find ourselves stuck in the same old rut, explains Guy Finley, can't be answered by the old self that asked the question in the first…[more]

  • Cancel the Ten Causes of Needless Heartaches (Writing - 12/27/04)

    As we awaken, explains Guy Finley, to see the false workings in our mind, we also see there is only one possible solution to end the suffering they cause: we…[more]

  • Remember Your Real Self and Be Free! (Writing - 11/7/05)

    Guy Finley reminds us that happiness, love, peace, compassion, and contentment are timeless states of being in the Now.

  • The Great Law that Governs Harmonious Relationships (Writing - 3/5/06)

    Many times the very thing we want from the person we are with, explains Guy Finley, is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise…[more]

  • Break Out of the Blame Game (Writing - 3/26/06)

    Negative emotions cannot exist, explains Guy Finley, without having something to blame for their punishing presence.

  • Abuse (Writing - 12/31/06)

    Nothing can grow true, strong, and healthy that lives under the dark shadow of abuse -- whether it's an abusive relationship or the abuse inflicted by mean-spirited thoughts and feelings.…[more]

  • Find Personal Freedom in the Principles of Invisible Justice (Writing - 2/26/07)

    We can never hope to be free, as Guy Finley explains, as long as any part of us struggles with, or suffers over what others are doing, have done, or…[more]

  • Transform the World Within You and Around You (Writing - 8/20/07)

    If we wish to live without resentments that linger in our hearts and rid ourselves of fear with all of its debilitating limitations, we must shed the skin of our…[more]

  • Dare to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (Audio 9:43 - 3/13/08)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley explains how every human being is meant to be a unique expression of the Intelligence of our Living Universe.

  • The Power to Put the Past Behind You (Writing - 4/14/08)

    Our task, explains Guy Finley, is discovering that we can have no real freedom until we are free of the tyranny of the past that still lives within us.

  • Don't Let Broken Expectations Bring You Down! (Audio 12:02 - 11/25/08)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley explains how expectations, while being necessary for daily living, can also become the source of conflict within us when we identify with the outcome of…[more]

  • Just Say "No" to Blaming Others (Writing - 1/19/09)

    A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be…[more]

  • Blame Schmame (Audio 6:29 - 4/25/09)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how any kind of blame is actually an avoidance of seeing yourself as you actually are in the present moment.

  • Make Room for Real Love in Your Life (Audio 9:13 - 6/5/09)

    In this podcast by Guy Finley, discover what it really means to love every moment of your life, no matter what it is that you need to do.

  • Six Eye-Opening Insights to Start True Self-Healing (Writing - 6/8/09)

    Guy Finley reminds us that the Living Light never shows us anything in ourselves that it hasn't already started to change for us.

  • Physician, Heal Thyself (Audio 15:45 - 8/11/09)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about a new kind of awareness that allows for the possibility of a genuine healing and reconciliation to take place in our lives.

  • Break the Chains of Bitterness (Audio 5:02 - 12/28/09)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the kind of direct self-observation that is essential for the individual who wants freedom from the present level of mind that unconsciously compromises…[more]

  • Learn to Release all Resentments (Writing - 5/10/10)

    Guy Finley explains how to learn to ask for a happy, new life by refusing to relive what's been tearing at you.

  • Start Asking Life for Something New (Writing - 6/28/10)

    The person in denial of his or her own condition continues to ask for more of what didn't help the last time around.

  • Come Awake to the Judgmental Nature in You (Writing - 2/21/11)

    Higher inner awareness grants you patience and new forms of consideration, because now you realize just how much pain everyone is really in.

  • Give Yourself What You Really Want (Writing - 7/3/11)

    Many times the very thing we want from others is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise somehow are withholding from them.

  • Choose to Walk Into the Healing Waters (Audio 12:12 - 7/20/11)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the importance of being willing to see where we are in need of higher help.

  • Everyone on Earth has a Gift Just for You (Writing - 12/12/11)

    We have not been given this precious life in order to go through it resisting everything that doesn't suit us; rather we are created to grow through whatever we meet…[more]

  • Wake Up and Recognize the Voices of Self-Defeat (Writing - 1/23/12)

    The only way it's possible to truly deliver ourselves from the punishment of our own self-wrecking thoughts is to begin awakening to their hidden cause within us.

  • Free Yourself from the Tyranny of the Past (Writing - 1/30/12)

    Our task, if we want to be free human beings -- if we want a life in which we no longer carry around with us "what he did," "what she…[more]

  • The Seed is the Deed (Audio 5:37 - 8/31/12)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how our experience of life -- the way we feel in any given moment -- is the direct result of what we give…[more]

  • What Would Happen if Suddenly Everyone in the World Said, "I Love You" (Audio 2:47 - 6/3/13)

    Guy Finley explains why it would be wise to become highly suspicious of the parts of ourselves that endlessly seek the approval of other people.

  • Free Yourself From This Familiar Negative State (Audio 3:45 - 8/23/13)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the painful sense of self that becomes more and more certain about its false position of righteousness in exact proportion to the…[more]

  • See The Blindness of Ever Feeling Superior Toward Another (Video 2:36 - 10/11/13)

    Guy Finley explains that if we ever find ourselves feeling superior to another person, then that is the perfect time to take an honest look at ourselves so that we…[more]

  • Discover the New You in a New View (Writing - 10/14/13)

    Your True Self doesn't win in life by overpowering problems, but by revealing they never really existed as you once believed they did.

  • A New Understanding that Elevates Your Relationships (Writing - 10/21/13)

    When another human being falls short of our expectations and we realize that what we want is not going to happen, there is a way for us to elevate ourselves…[more]

  • Detect and Reject Despair (Writing - 11/11/13)

    A painful regret is a needless present pain over an experience now past.

  • Heal Yourself and Heal the Past (Audio 6:16 - 12/26/13)

    Self-realization author Guy Finley explains in this short talk that happier, healthier and brighter relationships with others become possible when we begin to let go of painful grudges and resentments…[more]

  • Heal Yourself and Heal the Past (Video 5:55 - 1/17/14)

    Self-realization author Guy Finley explains in this short video that happier, healthier and brighter relationships with others become possible when we begin to let go of painful grudges and resentments…[more]

  • Release Yourself from Runaway Reactions (Writing - 4/14/14)

    Painful reactions to life events are just mechanical, emotional knee jerks.

  • The Real Root of All Rage Revealed (Video 1:15 - 11/4/14)

    Guy Finley explains that all forms of rage, whether inwardly or outwardly directed, are the result of our thwarted attempts to possess what we think we need in order to…[more]

  • Judgment Day is Not in a Time to Come (Video 3:39 - 3/26/15)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that every time we are identified with a negative state, then there is a certain kind of "judgment day" taking place.

  • Your Pain, Planetary Forces, and the Unseen Path to Freedom (Audio 6:56 - 10/15/15)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we are not intended to manipulate or control everything that we see within ourselves. We are instead intended to watch and…[more]

  • Let Go of the Judge in You (Writing - 10/26/15)

    We are spiritually free when we no longer want anything to do with sitting in judgment of others, regardless of their perceived transgression.

  • Free Yourself to Forgive (Writing - 11/16/15)

    It is impossible to change the relationship we have with the world around us without changing the relationship we have in ourselves, with ourselves.

  • Your Pain, Planetary Forces, and the Unseen Path to Freedom (Video 6:35 - 11/17/15)

    Guy Finley talks about how we are not intended to manipulate or control everything that we see within ourselves. We are instead intended to watch and witness what is being…[more]

  • Transcend Self-Limiting Self-Interests (Writing - 2/15/16)

    It is within relationships that we grow as individuals in everything valuable, because it is through them that we become stronger and wiser.

  • Escape the Punishment in Judging Others (Writing - 4/25/16)

    By and large, everything we condemn in others is just a way of hiding something similar within ourselves.

  • Break Out of the Cycle of Hurting and Being Hurt (Writing - 10/10/16)

    To hold a wish to punish someone begins with the unconscious embrace of the very pain we wish to inflict.

  • Use These Insights to Help You Walk Away from Guilt, Shame, and Regret (Audio 2:21 - 10/27/16)

    In this short talk, "letting go" author Guy Finley explains that there exists within all of us a lower nature that is always operating unconsciously to get us to be…[more]

  • Use These Insights to Help You Walk Away from Guilt, Shame, and Regret (Video 2:03 - 12/19/16)

    "Letting go" author Guy Finley explains that there exists within all of us a lower nature that is always operating unconsciously to get us to be the expression of its…[more]

  • Release Yourself from Judging Others (Writing - 2/6/17)

    We must learn to take the true conscious initiative with each other and then -- based in our understanding of this great spiritual law that governs harmonious relationships -- make…[more]

  • Transform Any Troubling Relationship into a Timeless Treasure (Video 8:38 - 2/23/17)

    In this excerpt from an hour-long seminar that Guy Finley presented on Sunday 2/15/17, he explains why our relationships are the most untapped resource on the planet when it come…[more]

  • If You Want Liberation, Throw Away the Labels You Have for Everything (Audio 3:39 - 5/29/17)

    When we apply a label such as "passive aggressive" to someone who bothers us, we cease to have direct contact with that person and instead meet them only through that…[more]

  • Consent to See What Lies Hidden (Writing - 6/12/17)

    Feeling compelled to act as the judge and jury of another for failing to exhibit some desirable characteristic or quality, proves the absence of that quality in ourselves.

  • The Lost Secrets of Starting Your Life Over (Video 5:06 - 7/6/17)

    In this excerpt from an hour-long seminar, Guy Finley explains that "starting over" is not something that happens by creating a better set of circumstances for ourselves, but is instead…[more]

  • If You Want Liberation, Throw Away the Labels You Have for Everything (Video 3:18 - 7/13/17)

    When we apply a label such as "passive aggressive" to someone who bothers us, we cease to have direct contact with that person and instead meet them only through that…[more]

  • Realize the Real Purpose of Relationship (Writing - 7/17/17)

    Other people do not create any disturbance we feel in the relationship. They are revealing to us in that moment the part of us that lays in the dark and…[more]