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  • Waking Up Together (Writing - 2/22/03)

    The whole of our lives is relationship. The whole of our inner discovery takes place within relationship. Nothing can speed up our inner work better than working with someone who…[more]

  • 10 Ways to Tell the World You've Lost Interest in Being You (Writing - 2/22/03)

    The true spiritual path begins and ends with what you already are. Use these 10 insights to tell the world you've lost interest in being you.

  • Perfecting Relationship (Writing - 2/23/03)

    The Secret of Pefecting Relationships

  • Nurturing Love (Writing - 2/23/03)

    Nurturing Love: How to be in True Relationship with another human being!

  • Relationships (Writing - 2/23/03)

    Using relationships for inner development.

  • New Powers to Help You Perfect Your Relationships (continued) (Writing - 8/19/03)

    Guy Finley discusses how we can raise our relationships to a higher level by understanding that the other person is never the problem when we feel hurt. It is not…[more]

  • Taking Your Part in Perfect Intelligence (Writing - 11/11/03)

    By working with our resistance to others, Guy Finley explains that we ultimately learn about our own true nature, out of which compassion is born.

  • Using Your Relationships to Realize Real Life (Writing - 12/22/03)

    The greatest, most abundant resource on planet Earth is also its least understood and utilized. Its unlimited supply is found virtually everywhere, anytime, and under all circumstances, even though few…[more]

  • Divorce (Writing - 11/1/04)

    Guy Finley discusses a new approach to breaking the cycle of negativity involved in divorce where we take the focus off the other person and place our attention on a…[more]

  • Giving Yourself (and Others) Room to Grow (Writing - 11/14/04)

    In order to give others the space they need in which to grow, says Guy Finley, we must first make room within ourselves.

  • Two Ways to Raise Your Level of Spiritual Freedom (Writing - 3/13/05)

    We are spiritually free, explains Guy Finley, when not one part of us harbors any hatred or resentment for any other human being.

  • The Price One Must Pay (Writing - 3/21/05)

    Nothing in the universe, explains Guy Finley, can prevent a man or a woman who wants to know Love -- who wants to rise to the next level -- from…[more]

  • Let Your Relationships Set You Free (Writing - 7/10/05)

    The path to a more compassionate life, explains Guy Finley, is found in our willingness to try to understand the moment instead of needing to be understood in it.

  • Helping Others to Help Themselves Go Higher (Writing - 11/12/05)

    The best to way to help others, explains Guy Finley, is to give them room in which to grow.

  • How to Release Yourself from Yourself (Writing - 12/5/05)

    Letting go is about learning to die to ourselves psychologically, explains Guy Finley, so that something higher, something "undiminishable" can stand in for us.

  • Escape the Punishment in Judging Others (Writing - 2/6/06)

    The gradual higher awareness of others' pain, explains Guy Finley, is the birth of true compassion in us.

  • The Great Law that Governs Harmonious Relationships (Writing - 3/5/06)

    Many times the very thing we want from the person we are with, explains Guy Finley, is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise…[more]

  • Enlarge Your Relationship with Real Life (Writing - 8/6/06)

    What we put first in our lives, explains Guy Finley, is our first relationship with life.

  • Clear This Obstacle and Climb to True Independence (Writing - 10/1/06)

    Every step along the way to a higher independent life, explains Guy Finley, is both the challenge and the reward.

  • Let Go of the Little Things in Life (Writing - 10/9/06)

    Learning to let go and to live in the Now, explains Guy Finley, is the same as catching ourselves holding onto what limits us and then deliberately dropping these self-imposed…[more]

  • The Secret of Perfect Relationships (Writing - 11/20/06)

    The less pain we have over what life appears to deny us, explains Guy Finley, the more at peace we naturally become with ourselves.

  • Walk Away From the Ache of What Others Think About You (Audio 14:49 - 1/21/08)

    We all know the sting of not getting the approval we seek from other people. And when we don't receive the approval, we double our efforts and try a different…[more]

  • Relationships: The Pathway and the Promise of Real Life (Writing - 3/3/08)

    Right within us, as an unseen aspect of our True Nature, resides the entire range of relationships that the universe has to offer.

  • The Essential Laws of Fearless Living (Audio 12:39 - 6/9/08)

    In this extraordinary podcast, Guy Finley reveals the higher understanding that is necessary to find the Truly Fearless Life!

  • Never Again Feel Like a Victim! (Writing - 6/9/08)

    Our experience of any passing event -- for the pain or pleasure of it, explains Guy Finley -- is the product of how we see it.

  • Stop This Secret Self-Sabotage (Writing - 6/23/08)

    Choosing inner seeing over the wish to be seen by others in a complimentary light, explains Guy Finley, stops the cycle of self-sabotage.

  • Making "Peace" with People who Would Punish Us (Writing - 6/30/08)

    The fear of being alone in life, explains Guy Finley, belongs to an imagined self.

  • Here's the Heart of Happy Human Relationships (Writing - 7/28/08)

    The first step in harmonious relationships is simple: We need only realize the spiritual truth that we cannot meet someone whom we are not like in some way, even if…[more]

  • What Can I Learn About Myself From You? (Writing - 9/14/08)

    Compassion starts with the understanding that every human being on the planet looks different from us -- because physically we are different -- but inwardly we all live in the…[more]

  • Stop Believing in Your Own Weakness (Writing - 9/22/08)

    It is our fear of being alone, explains Guy Finley, that compels us to seek the approval of others.

  • Let Love Be Your Life (Writing - 10/6/08)

    If we want a whole life, explains Guy Finley, we must be whole human beings.

  • Let Go and Give Others Room to Grow (Writing - 10/13/08)

    We can help others reach higher by simply agreeing, explains Guy Finley, to give them space to go through their changes.

  • The Power to Outgrow Problem People in Your Life (Writing - 10/19/08)

    We must be willing, explains Guy Finley, to taste the bitterness of our negative states before we would feed them to others.

  • Step Out of the Dark Cycle of Discontent (Writing - 11/2/08)

    Our real "problem" with others, explains Guy Finley, isn't that they won't or can't give to us what we want from them.

  • Take the Weight of the World Off Your Shoulders (Writing - 11/29/08)

    Why try and change your outer world, asks Guy Finley, when it is only a reflection of your inner life?

  • Just Say "No" to Blaming Others (Writing - 1/19/09)

    A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be…[more]

  • Let Go and Grow Happy! (Writing - 1/28/09)

    Guy Finley explains how and why to let go of any negativity.

  • Start Using All Your Relationships to Enrich Yourself (Writing - 3/16/09)

    Use your fear to come awake to yourself, says Guy Finley.

  • Stop Aching Over the Actions of Others! (Writing - 3/30/09)

    Guy Finley encourages us to look inward instead of outward for a reason why we're suffering.

  • Blame Schmame (Audio 6:29 - 4/25/09)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how any kind of blame is actually an avoidance of seeing yourself as you actually are in the present moment.

  • The Secret to Healing What Pains You (Writing - 4/27/09)

    Guy Finley explains that any part of us trying to drag us into a heated stew over "who" or "what" should be blamed for our pain is secretly working to…[more]

  • Turn Your Fuming into Freedom (Writing - 5/11/09)

    Guy Finley explains how whatever weight we seek to place on the backs of others simply falls back on our own.

  • Touch the Timeless Truth of Yourself (Writing - 6/1/09)

    We must stop trying to create conditions for ourselves, explains Guy Finley, through which we hope to escape the fear of our own emptiness.

  • Rise Above the Blame Game (Writing - 9/21/09)

    The weakness that blames others, explains Guy Finley, blinds you to your real inner condition.

  • Love the One You're With (Audio 2:27 - 12/6/09)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can experience truer, brighter, more meaningful relationships with everyone we meet once we learn to put the needs of others before…[more]

  • Reflections on the Real (Audio 4:54 - 12/31/09)

    In this revealing podcast, Guy Finley talks about how attending to the true needs of others also allows us to discover our own limitless possibilities.

  • Reap the Benefits of Being a Lover of Truth (Writing - 1/7/10)

    Learning to love what is good, explains Guy Finley, begins with being truthful about what we presently love.

  • Free Yourself From the Circle of False Friends (Audio 15:53 - 2/10/10)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how our experience of life is a direct reflection of the kind of psychological company that we keep.

  • The Reality Behind the Need for Realizing New Relationships (Writing - 3/26/10)

    Guy Finley explains that the Truth asks us to give it its way in our lives.

  • Outgrowing Relationships (Writing - 4/1/10)

    Outgrowing Relationships - Learn why walking the authentic spiritual path necessarily causes some relationships to fall away.

  • How to Stop the Spiritually Sick from Infecting You (Writing - 6/4/10)

    The company we keep, explains Guy Finley, refers both to the kinds of people outside of us and the presence of accompanying thoughts and feelings circulating within us.

  • Let Your Pain Free You From the Fear of It (Audio 20:16 - 7/1/10)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about why we must not be afraid to discover everything that we need to know about ourselves.

  • Let Love Lead You to True Success (Writing - 6/21/10)

    Guy Finley explains how we are held ever apart from what we love by the very fact that we would clutch it to our breast.

  • Stop Giving Yourself Away (Writing - 7/5/10)

    Time and time again, we come to the same spiritual lesson: no one can give us that which can only be found within our Self.

  • Break the Bonds of this Secret Form of Captivity (Writing - 8/3/10)

    We want to be free, and to be free means to understand what the path of freedom is about.

  • Be a Correspondent of Real Life (Audio 6:03 - 8/12/10)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how every moment is actually a divine communication that wants to reveal to us our own limitless possibilities.

  • The #1 Secret to Being Relaxed, Carefree, and In Command (Writing - 1/1/10)

    There is a hidden part of you that knows, without thinking about it, how to always be perfectly relaxed, carefree, and in command. This higher intellectual and emotional intelligence is…[more]

  • Use Unkind Acts to Help Create a New World (Audio 2:20 - 9/17/10)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can use everything that we encounter in our relationships with others to change ourselves.

  • End the Dark Cycle of Discontentment (Writing - 10/1/10)

    We have been the unwitting servants of a thought nature whose appetite is unappeasable.

  • Plant the Seeds of a New Self (Writing - 10/29/10)

    If we wish to have true harmonious relationships with others, then it is we who must change.

  • Act on What You Know is True (Writing - 1/3/11)

    Whatever suffering you agree to shoulder not only helps to lighten the load of those in need, but also serves to awaken within you the strength you need to be…[more]

  • Come Awake to the Judgmental Nature in You (Writing - 2/21/11)

    Higher inner awareness grants you patience and new forms of consideration, because now you realize just how much pain everyone is really in.

  • Articles of Higher Consciousness (Writing - 3/14/11)

    You have the Light to detect, dismiss, and to transcend the limiting influences of painful negative states such as doubt, worry, hatred, anger, and fear.

  • The Sure Cure for Unhappiness (Audio 5:19 - 5/23/11)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how our level of happiness is ultimately determined by our level of self-understanding.

  • Secrets of Compassionate Relationships (Writing - 5/2/11)

    Real compassion has to do with realizing that conscious relationship is the root of our existence, trying to get us to wake up a little bit and enter into those…[more]

  • Uncover the Root of Destructive Relationships (Writing - 5/30/11)

    There is nothing in the universe that can stop us from growing, except our habitual, mechanical nature.

  • Uncommon Insights from Everyday Interactions (Writing - 8/1/11)

    It is never the people we are around that cause us negative reactions. These reactions arise out of what we secretly want from people.

  • The Same Rose Never Blooms Twice (Audio 4:14 - 9/1/11)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we are here as human beings to continually perfect our self-understanding so that we can begin to enter into an awakened relationship…[more]

  • See the Flowering of Spirit (Audio 3:28 - 10/19/11)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how it is possible for us to discover an authentically new life if we will persist with our wish to know the…[more]

  • Why Desires Never Satisfy (Writing - 12/5/11)

    If we're interested in spiritual things, we gradually realize that what we really need is to understand this nature that is never satisfied.

  • Free Yourself from the Tyranny of the Past (Writing - 1/30/12)

    Our task, if we want to be free human beings -- if we want a life in which we no longer carry around with us "what he did," "what she…[more]

  • The Secret of Getting What You Wish for From Others (Writing - 2/13/12)

    We all know what it's like to find ourselves unhappy and in conflict with someone who just isn't giving us what we want or need from him or her. Whenever…[more]

  • The Key to a New Independent Life (Writing - 7/2/12)

    The fear of being alone in life feels real, no doubt; but it belongs to an imagined self.

  • Being Friends with Truth (Writing - 10/22/12)

    Choosing to keep the company of truth is the same as choosing to lose all the false "friends" that presently limit you.

  • Start Seeing Life More Accurately (Writing - 12/31/12)

    Instead of putting our attention on what others have done or said, we must turn our attention inward.

  • Attend to the Business at Hand (Audio 2:18 - 5/1/13)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley discusses the mind's compulsive habit of judging other people, which is an unfortunate waste of time and energy that would better be spent attending…[more]

  • Authentic Help for a Young Child (Video 2:53 - 4/29/13)

    Guy Finley talks about the importance of never meeting a child's negative state on the same level of negativity. To truly help a child who is negative we must observe…[more]

  • There's Nothing You Can't Do (Video 4:31 - 5/10/13)

    Guy Finley explains that everything you need to succeed and to change the kind of human being you are is already provided for you.

  • Love Begins with Complete Openness to Life (Video 6:56 - 5/17/13)

    In this video, Guy Finley explains that true love reveals to us what we need to see about ourselves so that we can develop a more perfect relationship with what…[more]

  • Outgrowing Former Relationships (Writing - 6/17/13)

    How do we find others who are also searching for their true selves?

  • See The Blindness of Ever Feeling Superior Toward Another (Video 2:36 - 10/11/13)

    Guy Finley explains that if we ever find ourselves feeling superior to another person, then that is the perfect time to take an honest look at ourselves so that we…[more]

  • A New Understanding that Elevates Your Relationships (Writing - 10/21/13)

    When another human being falls short of our expectations and we realize that what we want is not going to happen, there is a way for us to elevate ourselves…[more]

  • Go Beyond What Has Passed into the Presence that Heals It (Video 1:58 - 4/1/14)

    Guy Finley explains in this short video that we can either be embroiled in regret and resentment over the cruel behavior of someone from our past, or we can stop…[more]

  • Learn to Be in Silent Command of Yourself and Others (Video 2:58 - 5/20/14)

    In this short video, Guy Finley explains that we are troubled by the behavior of other people only when we want something from them. When we begin to use our…[more]

  • The Secret of Healing Your Past (Video 2:09 - 7/18/14)

    Guy Finley describes in this short video how our lives can change for the better, including all of our past, if we are willing, right now, to do the necessary…[more]

  • Reclaim the Gift of Recognizing the Difference Between Good and Evil (Audio 2:40 - 3/5/15)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that we have lost our innate ability to discern what's good from what's evil, and instead make peace with anything that promises to…[more]

  • Learn to Use a Negative Coworker for Your Spiritual Growth (Video 6:41 - 3/18/15)

    Guy Finley tells an insightful short story about an always-disturbed "achy lake" in order to illustrate the fact that we can use all of the "disruptive" people in our lives…[more]

  • Love Always Prevails (Video 1:33 - 3/24/15)

    Guy Finley explains that when you give your love to what you know is right and true, you will gradually develop a relationship with that which seeded that love within…[more]

  • Four Words for Any Family Crisis (Video 2:06 - 3/27/15)

    Guy Finley reveals four words that will always aid you and those around you in any difficult, stressful situation involving family and friends.

  • The True Nature of Greatness (Audio 2:48 - 3/30/15)

    Guy Finley talks about how true greatness does not need to be acknowledged as being great. It has nothing whatsoever to do with receiving the approval of others, nor of…[more]

  • Growing Into a Love That Lasts (Writing - 4/13/15)

    Here is a simple set of instructions for those who want their love to last: Don't try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures. Instead,…[more]

  • Children Learn From What They See (Video 2:40 - 4/28/15)

    In this short video clip, Guy Finley explains that because children learn mainly from visual cues and emotional signals, the best and most effective way to teach them is by…[more]

  • A Brief Lesson in Higher Love (Audio 1:48 - 9/4/15)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that any state which we call "love" that does not include some kind of sacrifice is actually a secret form of self-glorification.

  • A Brief Lesson in Higher Love (Video 1:17 - 10/5/15)

    In this short video, Guy Finley explains that any state which we call "love" that does not include some kind of sacrifice is actually a secret form of self-glorification.

  • Transcend Self-Limiting Self-Interests (Writing - 2/15/16)

    It is within relationships that we grow as individuals in everything valuable, because it is through them that we become stronger and wiser.

  • Refuse Abuse, Within and Without (Video 12:50 - 3/2/16)

    Guy Finley explains that anyone who remains in an abusive relationship of any kind does so only because of his or her own weakness and unconscious agreement. As we work…[more]

  • The Secret of Getting What You Wish for From Others (Writing - 6/13/16)

    Whatever it may be that we find wanting in someone else, we must learn what it means to give that very thing to him or her.

  • New Keys for Living in Conscious Harmony (Writing - 7/11/16)

    Here's a special spiritual exercise designed to develop harmonious human relationships -- it's called the "You-I" Maneuver

  • Realize and Release What Disturbs You (Writing - 9/19/16)

    We grow through our relationships with life, which means that through them we are shown possibilities about ourselves we never knew existed.

  • Take Part in the Great Communication of Life (Audio 3:58 - 11/4/16)

    Guy Finley talks about the unnecessary pain that is produced by a breakdown in communication, which is resolved by coming out of our mental dialogs and entering into a broader…[more]

  • Take Part in the Great Communication of Life (Video 3:33 - 1/18/17)

    Guy Finley talks about the unnecessary pain that is produced by a breakdown in communication, which is resolved by coming out of our mental dialogs and entering into a broader…[more]

  • Transform Any Troubling Relationship into a Timeless Treasure (Video 8:38 - 2/23/17)

    In this excerpt from an hour-long seminar that Guy Finley presented on Sunday 2/15/17, he explains why our relationships are the most untapped resource on the planet when it come…[more]

  • A Real "Mother's Day" Message (Audio 4:05 - 6/2/17)

    The idea of Mother's Day is beautiful, but it is not meant to simply celebrate our mothers with false sentimentality. It is meant to be a reminder of humility, receptivity,…[more]

  • Learn to Move from Your Head to Your Heart (Video 4:24 - 6/30/17)

    The seeds of discovering a new mind come from moving closer and closer to the very source of wisdom. What any man or woman in the universe understands you can…[more]

  • Realize the Real Purpose of Relationship (Writing - 7/17/17)

    Other people do not create any disturbance we feel in the relationship. They are revealing to us in that moment the part of us that lays in the dark and…[more]

  • Learn to Watch the Nature that Seeks Approval (Video 3:25 - 8/22/17)

    Guy Finley explains that the part of us that tries to feel better about itself -- by seeking approval from other people -- is itself the source of the disturbance…[more]