Question: Anxiety seems to be my lot in life lately. I have a full plate of activities with children, a challenging job, and a few outside interests. I feel like I balance these and keep my priorities straight, yet still, I'm often visited by worry and anxiety. Do you have any suggestions on how I can work through this?
Answer: Anxiety is one of the more difficult internal states to work with because of the way it works within us. The key is to begin realizing that the only influence any anxious state can have over us is in what it promises us we will have if we'll do what the state tells us to do. One of the important aspects of your inner work is to begin deeply learning to recognize these individual states as they invade your psychic system, and in the beginning, if nothing else, to meet these states (especially anxiety) with what you know is true about the state instead of listening to what the state tells you is true about you. The Truth wants you to understand that anxious states live for themselves at your expense. The clearer this becomes to you, the freer you will be from giving yourself away to any anxious state.
Question: When caught in an anxious state, it seems that the more I try to be awake and aware, the "tighter the grip." I know I'm resisting yet somehow embracing the state. Something's refusing to "get it." Help!
Answer: We cannot resist anything within us that we are not identified with. This means that the more we resist something, the more we strengthen the bond between ourselves and the "unwanted" state. When we see something within us actively clinging to what we don't want, we realize our resistance isn't ours, but belongs to the negative "I" that has brought forth the state. See this. When you do, you'll begin to drop both the state and the "I" involved.