Perfecting Relationship
Question: It seems that my relationships with people are so dissatisfying… lacking true mutual consideration, kindness, sensitivity, interest, etc. Everyone seems so self-absorbed that I've just about given up on reaching out. And the long-term relationships I've established seem to have each eventually disintegrated into habitual unhappiness or resentment. What higher understanding would help me look at people in a new light and improve the quality of my relationships?
Answer: The Secret of Perfect Relationships
The less we learn to long for -- or depend upon -- Special understanding from others, The less we will suffer for not receiving this.
The less we suffer over what others Seem incapable of giving to us, The less unhappy will we find ourselves In these unanswered moments of our lives Spent in the company of friends and foes alike.
The less pain we have over what life appears to deny us, The more at peace we naturally become with ourselves.
The more of this serenity we grow to know within ourselves, The easier it becomes for us to give to others. This harmony founded in our New Understanding.
Whenever we give others this new order of Understanding
Without asking for anything in return,
Those we greet with this Gift are silently touched; they are moved
By this willingness to put their concerns before our own.
And it is this one action that awakens in them...
Their sleeping need to respond in kind.
Happiness is the wholeness found in conscious kindness. This is the secret of perfect relationships.
