“I listened to the 1st session... WOW!! thank you so much. I am currently reading Guy's book The Secret of Letting Go -- these 2 together will be dynamite and I will be able to take on anything.”
— Pam R.
“I listen to Guy just about every day on guyfinleynow.org. I love the website, love your books, and love the peacefulness in my life as I learn more and more.”
— Lisa H., New Haven, IN
“Guy Finley's Letting Go: A Little Bit At A Time is more than a book about letting go...It is a transformative experience!”
— Alissa Lukara, author of Riding Grace: A Triumph of the Soul, president, Lifechallenges.org
“I highly recommend this tiny book; it is not the quantity of words but the quality of Guy Finley's message that nourishes one's soul.”
— Greg Voisen, founder, Compassionate Communications
To hold a wish to punish someone begins with the unconscious embrace of the very pain we wish to inflict.
We grow through our relationships with life, which means that through them we are shown possibilities about ourselves we never knew existed.
Guy Finley addresses the path to freedom from addictive medications. Change is possible, and we are created to be free from everything that now holds us captive.
Here's a special spiritual exercise designed to develop harmonious human relationships -- it's called the "You-I" Maneuver
Whatever it may be that we find wanting in someone else, we must learn what it means to give that very thing to him or her.
Any condition we meet that is unwanted, such as a rude person, is not the cause of our stress. All conditions simply offer a momentary mirror for us in which…[more]
Guy Finley explains that anyone who remains in an abusive relationship of any kind does so only because of his or her own weakness and unconscious agreement. As we work…[more]
It is within relationships that we grow as individuals in everything valuable, because it is through them that we become stronger and wiser.
In this short video, Guy Finley explains that any state which we call "love" that does not include some kind of sacrifice is actually a secret form of self-glorification.
Here is a list of five ways to stop people with dark spirits from infecting you.
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that any state which we call "love" that does not include some kind of sacrifice is actually a secret form of self-glorification.
It isn't in another's power to do for you what you must do for yourself.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how all true teachings exist to help us reveal and transcend the present state of darkness that we live in, not to…[more]
In this short video clip, Guy Finley explains that because children learn mainly from visual cues and emotional signals, the best and most effective way to teach them is by…[more]
Here is a simple set of instructions for those who want their love to last:
Don't try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures. Instead,…[more]
Guy Finley talks about how true greatness does not need to be acknowledged as being great. It has nothing whatsoever to do with receiving the approval of others, nor of…[more]
Guy Finley reveals four words that will always aid you and those around you in any difficult, stressful situation involving family and friends.
Guy Finley explains that when you give your love to what you know is right and true, you will gradually develop a relationship with that which seeded that love within…[more]
Guy Finley tells an insightful short story about an always-disturbed "achy lake" in order to illustrate the fact that we can use all of the "disruptive" people in our lives…[more]
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that we have lost our innate ability to discern what's good from what's evil, and instead make peace with anything that promises to…[more]
As we work and root out what is untrue, it becomes easier and easier to instantly taste the truth of anything (or anyone) we encounter.
The first step in harmonious relationships is simple: We need only realize the spiritual truth that we cannot meet someone whom we are not like in some way.
Guy Finley explains that true goodness is not measured by actions that validate the image we have of ourselves as being a good. An action that is truly good has…[more]
In this brief sound bite, Guy Finley talks about the root cause of all the pain and anger we experience when something that we thought we possessed is taken away…[more]
What troubles us about any person, regardless of his or her psychological make-up, is what that person stirs in us.
You can't change the kind of person you are later because there is no later -- there is only now.
Guy Finley describes in this short video how our lives can change for the better, including all of our past, if we are willing, right now, to do the necessary…[more]
In this short video, Guy Finley explains that we are troubled by the behavior of other people only when we want something from them. When we begin to use our…[more]
Guy Finley responds to a question about the spiritual potential of autistic children, and reveals that the true responsibility of a caregiver is to first live up to their own…[more]
Guy Finley explains in this short video that we can either be embroiled in regret and resentment over the cruel behavior of someone from our past, or we can stop…[more]
Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that we can either be embroiled in regret and resentment over the cruel behavior of someone from our past, or we can stop…[more]
Whenever we act cruelly toward another, it's because something cruel "takes over and handles" the moment for us by doing what it remembers to do.
Any time we pretend to be something we're not, we do so out of fear that without that "persona" to protect us we won't get what we want.
A painful regret is a needless present pain over an experience now past.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about three stages in the life of a spiritual aspirant: first we explore the world, then we develop into good householders, and then…[more]
When another human being falls short of our expectations and we realize that what we want is not going to happen, there is a way for us to elevate ourselves…[more]
Your True Self doesn't win in life by overpowering problems, but by revealing they never really existed as you once believed they did.
Guy Finley explains that if we ever find ourselves feeling superior to another person, then that is the perfect time to take an honest look at ourselves so that we…[more]
If you want to help another, free yourself, or at least make that your sole intention.
How do we find others who are also searching for their true selves?
In this video, Guy Finley explains that true love reveals to us what we need to see about ourselves so that we can develop a more perfect relationship with what…[more]
Guy Finley explains that everything you need to succeed and to change the kind of human being you are is already provided for you.
In this short talk, Guy Finley discusses the mind's compulsive habit of judging other people, which is an unfortunate waste of time and energy that would better be spent attending…[more]
Guy Finley talks about how Truth will never stop trying to help us see and drop the psychological "baggage" that we unconsciously carry around with us.
Guy Finley talks about the importance of never meeting a child's negative state on the same level of negativity. To truly help a child who is negative we must observe…[more]
Ours is the power to choose what we will and will not give our power to.
In this video, Guy tells an enlightening and entertaining spiritual story about a young woman who gets carried away with "dance partners" -- thoughts and feelings -- that don't have…[more]
In spite of how things may appear to us, we are never trapped by where we are. The trap is always who we are.
Instead of putting our attention on what others have done or said, we must turn our attention inward.
Letting go follows the realization that holding on is of no further use.
Choosing to keep the company of truth is the same as choosing to lose all the false "friends" that presently limit you.
The fear of being alone in life feels real, no doubt; but it belongs to an imagined self.
You must learn to stop thinking in terms of beginnings and endings, successes and failures, and begin to treat everything in your life as a learning experience instead of a…[more]
Once we realize that our present view of self, a view that defines our reality, is a construct of a certain level of our own consciousness, we also realize the…[more]
We all know what it's like to find ourselves unhappy and in conflict with someone who just isn't giving us what we want or need from him or her. Whenever…[more]
Our task, if we want to be free human beings -- if we want a life in which we no longer carry around with us "what he did," "what she…[more]
Deliberately disconnecting yourself from whatever you think has you blocked leads to true self-liberation because you have never been trapped by anything outside of your own lack of understanding.
The key to regaining command of yourself in any moment you start to feel as though you're in a rush is to remember that who you are and what you…[more]
If we're interested in spiritual things, we gradually realize that what we really need is to understand this nature that is never satisfied.
We value negative states because of the strong sense of self we get from them.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how it is possible for us to discover an authentically new life if we will persist with our wish to know the…[more]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we are here as human beings to continually perfect our self-understanding so that we can begin to enter into an awakened relationship…[more]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about why human beings are so addicted to stress and tension, and why it is so important for us to understand that something…[more]
It is never the people we are around that cause us negative reactions. These reactions arise out of what we secretly want from people.
There is nothing in the universe that can stop us from growing, except our habitual, mechanical nature.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how our level of happiness is ultimately determined by our level of self-understanding.
Real compassion has to do with realizing that conscious relationship is the root of our existence, trying to get us to wake up a little bit and enter into those…[more]
You have the Light to detect, dismiss, and to transcend the limiting influences of painful negative states such as doubt, worry, hatred, anger, and fear.
Higher inner awareness grants you patience and new forms of consideration, because now you realize just how much pain everyone is really in.
Whatever suffering you agree to shoulder not only helps to lighten the load of those in need, but also serves to awaken within you the strength you need to be…[more]
If we wish to have true harmonious relationships with others, then it is we who must change.
We have been the unwitting servants of a thought nature whose appetite is unappeasable.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can use everything that we encounter in our relationships with others to change ourselves.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how every moment is actually a divine communication that wants to reveal to us our own limitless possibilities.
Every time we accept a negative state we compromise ourselves and increase the level of conflict for ourselves and everyone we meet.
We want to be free, and to be free means to understand what the path of freedom is about.
Time and time again, we come to the same spiritual lesson: no one can give us that which can only be found within our Self.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about why we must not be afraid to discover everything that we need to know about ourselves.
Guy Finley explains how we are held ever apart from what we love by the very fact that we would clutch it to our breast.
Outgrowing Relationships - Learn why walking the authentic spiritual path necessarily causes some relationships to fall away.
Guy Finley explains that the Truth asks us to give it its way in our lives.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how our experience of life is a direct reflection of the kind of psychological company that we keep.
Guy Finley discusses the true nature of responsibility to ourselves and to others and how we can begin to lay down the weight of the false responsibilities and beliefs that…[more]
Learning to love what is good, explains Guy Finley, begins with being truthful about what we presently love.
Guy Finley reminds us that the truth never causes pain.
There is a hidden part of you that knows, without thinking about it, how to always be perfectly relaxed, carefree, and in command. This higher intellectual and emotional intelligence is…[more]
In this revealing podcast, Guy Finley talks about how attending to the true needs of others also allows us to discover our own limitless possibilities.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the kind of direct self-observation that is essential for the individual who wants freedom from the present level of mind that unconsciously compromises…[more]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can experience truer, brighter, more meaningful relationships with everyone we meet once we learn to put the needs of others before…[more]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how resistance to any negative state such as anger, anxiety, or fear does not help diminish the state, but instead actually causes the…[more]
The weakness that blames others, explains Guy Finley, blinds you to your real inner condition.
Guy Finley explains that a "prisoner" mentality is one that blames anything outside of you for the pain you have.
We must stop trying to create conditions for ourselves, explains Guy Finley, through which we hope to escape the fear of our own emptiness.
Guy Finley explains how whatever weight we seek to place on the backs of others simply falls back on our own.
Guy Finley explains that the day of our awakening is the same as the delightful date of our departure from a bankrupt world filled with beggars dressed as kings and…[more]
Guy Finley explains that any part of us trying to drag us into a heated stew over "who" or "what" should be blamed for our pain is secretly working to…[more]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how any kind of blame is actually an avoidance of seeing yourself as you actually are in the present moment.
Guy Finley addresses concern about responding to the current financial crisis and stress over job loss, encouraging us to remain as receptive as we can to the lessons meant to…[more]
Guy Finley encourages us to look inward instead of outward for a reason why we're suffering.
Use your fear to come awake to yourself, says Guy Finley.
In this special podcast, Guy Finley talks about how a higher awareness of "our world" makes it impossible to punish, judge or be against another person.
Guy Finley discusses the honest communication that is truly helpful when caregiving aging parents. Be true to yourself, honor your intuition, and refuse doubt in making the choices that fulfill…[more]
Guy Finley explains how and why to let go of any negativity.
A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be…[more]
The seemingly scary condition, whatever it may be, is not the problem. It is your reaction that is fearful. This is why if you will become conscious of your condition…[more]
Why try and change your outer world, asks Guy Finley, when it is only a reflection of your inner life?
Our real "problem" with others, explains Guy Finley, isn't that they won't or can't give to us what we want from them.
We must be willing, explains Guy Finley, to taste the bitterness of our negative states before we would feed them to others.
We can help others reach higher by simply agreeing, explains Guy Finley, to give them space to go through their changes.
If we want a whole life, explains Guy Finley, we must be whole human beings.
It is our fear of being alone, explains Guy Finley, that compels us to seek the approval of others.
Compassion starts with the understanding that every human being on the planet looks different from us -- because physically we are different -- but inwardly we all live in the…[more]
The first step in harmonious relationships is simple: We need only realize the spiritual truth that we cannot meet someone whom we are not like in some way, even if…[more]
The fear of being alone in life, explains Guy Finley, belongs to an imagined self.
Choosing inner seeing over the wish to be seen by others in a complimentary light, explains Guy Finley, stops the cycle of self-sabotage.
In this extraordinary podcast, Guy Finley reveals the higher understanding that is necessary to find the Truly Fearless Life!
Our experience of any passing event -- for the pain or pleasure of it, explains Guy Finley -- is the product of how we see it.
Real Life never disappears! In this special Memorial Day podcast, Guy Finley talks in detail about how Real Life is found in loving what IS.
Right within us, as an unseen aspect of our True Nature, resides the entire range of relationships that the universe has to offer.
The unsure self that not only looks for, but attaches itself to codependent relationships -- cannot possibly be the real you. Let's see why this statement has to be true.…[more]
We all know the sting of not getting the approval we seek from other people. And when we don't receive the approval, we double our efforts and try a different…[more]
One of the important aspects of this Work, explains Guy Finley, is beginning to employ its principles in our everyday lives.
The suffering inherent in any condition created by unconscious codependency, explains Guy Finley, is due to our having forgotten who we really are.
There is no substitute, explains Guy Finley, for seeing the truth of our actual spiritual situation.
Nothing can grow true, strong, and healthy that lives under the dark shadow of abuse -- whether it's an abusive relationship or the abuse inflicted by mean-spirited thoughts and feelings.…[more]
The less pain we have over what life appears to deny us, explains Guy Finley, the more at peace we naturally become with ourselves.
Learning to let go and to live in the Now, explains Guy Finley, is the same as catching ourselves holding onto what limits us and then deliberately dropping these self-imposed…[more]
Every step along the way to a higher independent life, explains Guy Finley, is both the challenge and the reward.
What we put first in our lives, explains Guy Finley, is our first relationship with life.
Many times the very thing we want from the person we are with, explains Guy Finley, is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise…[more]
Guy Finley discusses how to help our children grow spiritually by accepting a parent's true responsibility, which is to lead by example and nourish our own inner work.
The gradual higher awareness of others' pain, explains Guy Finley, is the birth of true compassion in us.
Letting go is about learning to die to ourselves psychologically, explains Guy Finley, so that something higher, something "undiminishable" can stand in for us.
The best to way to help others, explains Guy Finley, is to give them room in which to grow.
The path to a more compassionate life, explains Guy Finley, is found in our willingness to try to understand the moment instead of needing to be understood in it.
All interior practices, explains Guy Finley, begin with the wish to meet our lives from a new understanding of ourselves granted us through new knowledge about ourselves.
Guy Finley discusses the concerns of householders with regard to fulfilling responsibilities while on the spiritual path.
Nothing in the universe, explains Guy Finley, can prevent a man or a woman who wants to know Love -- who wants to rise to the next level -- from…[more]
We are spiritually free, explains Guy Finley, when not one part of us harbors any hatred or resentment for any other human being.
In order to give others the space they need in which to grow, says Guy Finley, we must first make room within ourselves.
Guy Finley discusses a new approach to breaking the cycle of negativity involved in divorce where we take the focus off the other person and place our attention on a…[more]
Learn how to deal with parenting and family issues, including ways to use your interactions with children and loved ones to find a new kind of freedom.
The greatest, most abundant resource on planet Earth is also its least understood and utilized. Its unlimited supply is found virtually everywhere, anytime, and under all circumstances, even though few…[more]
By working with our resistance to others, Guy Finley explains that we ultimately learn about our own true nature, out of which compassion is born.
Guy Finley shows how the cruelty of others can begin to serve our inner development.
In this lesson Guy Finley explains how we can either choose to get negative about other people's bad behavior (which doesn't help us), or we can choose a different kind…[more]
Guy Finley discusses how we can raise our relationships to a higher level by understanding that the other person is never the problem when we feel hurt. It is not…[more]
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The whole of our lives is relationship. The whole of our inner discovery takes place within relationship. Nothing can speed up our inner work better than working with someone who…[more]
The true spiritual path begins and ends with what you already are. Use these 10 insights to tell the world you've lost interest in being you.
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