Other people do not create any disturbance we feel in the relationship. They are revealing to us in that moment the part of us that lays in the dark and…[more]
When we apply a label such as "passive aggressive" to someone who bothers us, we cease to have direct contact with that person and instead meet them only through that…[more]
The seeds of discovering a new mind come from moving closer and closer to the very source of wisdom. What any man or woman in the universe understands you can…[more]
The idea of Mother's Day is beautiful, but it is not meant to simply celebrate our mothers with false sentimentality. It is meant to be a reminder of humility, receptivity,…[more]
When we apply a label such as "passive aggressive" to someone who bothers us, we cease to have direct contact with that person and instead meet them only through that…[more]
"Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains what Mothers Day represents spiritually, and what a real "Mothers Day" actually is.
The reason perfect love casts out fear is because any unwanted condition willingly embraced loses its power over us.
Guy Finley explains that you can't change a situation you don't want without first changing the nature that got you into it in the first place. Unless that nature changes…[more]
In this excerpt from an hour-long seminar that Guy Finley presented on Sunday 2/15/17, he explains why our relationships are the most untapped resource on the planet when it come…[more]
Here are six special practices that will reward you with the Real Life your heart longs for
We must learn to take the true conscious initiative with each other and then -- based in our understanding of this great spiritual law that governs harmonious relationships -- make…[more]
Guy Finley talks about the unnecessary pain that is produced by a breakdown in communication, which is resolved by coming out of our mental dialogs and entering into a broader…[more]
iving within us dwells an order of being that knows, without thinking about it, what is authentically good for us and others.
Through our willingness to work deliberately at placing our usual self in "second place," we agree not only to change the way we see our relationships, but we also agree…[more]
It is your spiritual right to decide what kind of thoughts and feelings are permitted to roam through your consciousness.
Guy Finley explains that as we persist with the intention to slow down, we will gradually come to see that underneath our rushing is an agitation that is actually meant…[more]
Guy Finley talks about the unnecessary pain that is produced by a breakdown in communication, which is resolved by coming out of our mental dialogs and entering into a broader…[more]
As you persist with the intention to slow down, you will gradually come to see that underneath your rushing is an agitation that is actually meant to stir a higher…[more]
We grow through our relationships with life, which means that through them we are shown possibilities about ourselves we never knew existed.
Each time you can awaken yourself from a self-produced nightmare and pull the curtains closed on its performance, you will reclaim your natural confidence and calm.
Here's a special spiritual exercise designed to develop harmonious human relationships -- it's called the "You-I" Maneuver
Whatever it may be that we find wanting in someone else, we must learn what it means to give that very thing to him or her.
Guy Finley explains that anyone who remains in an abusive relationship of any kind does so only because of his or her own weakness and unconscious agreement. As we work…[more]
It is within relationships that we grow as individuals in everything valuable, because it is through them that we become stronger and wiser.
It is impossible to change the relationship we have with the world around us without changing the relationship we have in ourselves, with ourselves.
In this short video, Guy Finley explains that any state which we call "love" that does not include some kind of sacrifice is actually a secret form of self-glorification.
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that any state which we call "love" that does not include some kind of sacrifice is actually a secret form of self-glorification.
There is a direct and proportionate relationship between the degree of inconsolable pain that we have and a deep-seated misunderstanding of our real purpose for being alive.
In this short video clip, Guy Finley explains that because children learn mainly from visual cues and emotional signals, the best and most effective way to teach them is by…[more]
Here is a simple set of instructions for those who want their love to last:
Don't try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures. Instead,…[more]
Guy Finley talks about how true greatness does not need to be acknowledged as being great. It has nothing whatsoever to do with receiving the approval of others, nor of…[more]
Guy Finley reveals four words that will always aid you and those around you in any difficult, stressful situation involving family and friends.
Guy Finley explains that when you give your love to what you know is right and true, you will gradually develop a relationship with that which seeded that love within…[more]
Guy Finley tells an insightful short story about an always-disturbed "achy lake" in order to illustrate the fact that we can use all of the "disruptive" people in our lives…[more]
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that we have lost our innate ability to discern what's good from what's evil, and instead make peace with anything that promises to…[more]
What you experience isn't the event but the content of your own past experience within its narrow confines.
Guy Finley describes in this short video how our lives can change for the better, including all of our past, if we are willing, right now, to do the necessary…[more]
The self-defeating desires that drag us around belong to a nature that always feels incomplete.
Guy Finley explains in this short video that higher help is always freely given to us when we ask properly, but the "problem" is that most of the time we…[more]
In this short video, Guy Finley explains that we are troubled by the behavior of other people only when we want something from them. When we begin to use our…[more]
Guy Finley responds to a question about the spiritual potential of autistic children, and reveals that the true responsibility of a caregiver is to first live up to their own…[more]
We are made to be self-correcting, so that each real correction effected in us elevates us above the dark and limiting influences we have been living under all our lives.
Guy Finley explains in this short video that we can either be embroiled in regret and resentment over the cruel behavior of someone from our past, or we can stop…[more]
In this short video, Guy Finley talks about the necessity of remaining as conscious as possible to any kind of inner psychological pain in the moment that it appears. Guy…[more]
Whenever we act cruelly toward another, it's because something cruel "takes over and handles" the moment for us by doing what it remembers to do.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the only true solution to anger, which is to atone for it in the moment by allowing the light of revelation to…[more]
We must stop giving to our friends and family the pain we cannot bear to carry ourselves.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about three stages in the life of a spiritual aspirant: first we explore the world, then we develop into good householders, and then…[more]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about three essential elements that have always been found within any true spiritual practice: working on oneself, working with others, and working in…[more]
When another human being falls short of our expectations and we realize that what we want is not going to happen, there is a way for us to elevate ourselves…[more]
Guy Finley explains that if we ever find ourselves feeling superior to another person, then that is the perfect time to take an honest look at ourselves so that we…[more]
If you want to help another, free yourself, or at least make that your sole intention.
It is the essence of our lives that determines the relationships we have with others.
How do we find others who are also searching for their true selves?
In this video, Guy Finley explains that true love reveals to us what we need to see about ourselves so that we can develop a more perfect relationship with what…[more]
Guy Finley explains that everything you need to succeed and to change the kind of human being you are is already provided for you.
In this short talk, Guy Finley discusses the mind's compulsive habit of judging other people, which is an unfortunate waste of time and energy that would better be spent attending…[more]
Guy Finley talks about the importance of never meeting a child's negative state on the same level of negativity. To truly help a child who is negative we must observe…[more]
Dare to put aside all relationships other than those which serve to reveal what is essential to your real desire.
Instead of putting our attention on what others have done or said, we must turn our attention inward.
Choosing to keep the company of truth is the same as choosing to lose all the false "friends" that presently limit you.
Be willing to do without what you must if you see certain things that tell you that what you are embracing is destroying everything, including your chance to be a…[more]
The fear of being alone in life feels real, no doubt; but it belongs to an imagined self.
Our willingness to teach for the purpose of learning is every bit as important as is our willingness to learn what we must in order to grow.
We all know what it's like to find ourselves unhappy and in conflict with someone who just isn't giving us what we want or need from him or her. Whenever…[more]
Our task, if we want to be free human beings -- if we want a life in which we no longer carry around with us "what he did," "what she…[more]
We have not been given this precious life in order to go through it resisting everything that doesn't suit us; rather we are created to grow through whatever we meet…[more]
If we're interested in spiritual things, we gradually realize that what we really need is to understand this nature that is never satisfied.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how it is possible for us to discover an authentically new life if we will persist with our wish to know the…[more]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we are here as human beings to continually perfect our self-understanding so that we can begin to enter into an awakened relationship…[more]
It is never the people we are around that cause us negative reactions. These reactions arise out of what we secretly want from people.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the importance of being willing to see where we are in need of higher help.
Almost every kind of unhappy feeling is the result of mistaking the partial for the whole.
There is nothing in the universe that can stop us from growing, except our habitual, mechanical nature.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how our level of happiness is ultimately determined by our level of self-understanding.
Real compassion has to do with realizing that conscious relationship is the root of our existence, trying to get us to wake up a little bit and enter into those…[more]
You have the Light to detect, dismiss, and to transcend the limiting influences of painful negative states such as doubt, worry, hatred, anger, and fear.
Higher inner awareness grants you patience and new forms of consideration, because now you realize just how much pain everyone is really in.
If we wish to have true harmonious relationships with others, then it is we who must change.
We have been the unwitting servants of a thought nature whose appetite is unappeasable.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can use everything that we encounter in our relationships with others to change ourselves.
It is not enough to just passively receive the lessons we are given. We must act upon their revelations and further clarify their import.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how every moment is actually a divine communication that wants to reveal to us our own limitless possibilities.
We want to be free, and to be free means to understand what the path of freedom is about.
Discussion of gratitude and the secret to recognizing the Love behind everything that happens to us. Find out more about expressions of thankfulness including tithing, being grateful for the difficult…[more]
Time and time again, we come to the same spiritual lesson: no one can give us that which can only be found within our Self.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about why we must not be afraid to discover everything that we need to know about ourselves.
Guy Finley explains how we are held ever apart from what we love by the very fact that we would clutch it to our breast.
The company we keep, explains Guy Finley, refers both to the kinds of people outside of us and the presence of accompanying thoughts and feelings circulating within us.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how our awareness of the true needs of other human beings heralds within us the birth of true compassion.
Outgrowing Relationships - Learn why walking the authentic spiritual path necessarily causes some relationships to fall away.
Guy Finley explains that the Truth asks us to give it its way in our lives.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how our experience of life is a direct reflection of the kind of psychological company that we keep.
Guy Finley discusses the true nature of responsibility to ourselves and to others and how we can begin to lay down the weight of the false responsibilities and beliefs that…[more]
Learning to love what is good, explains Guy Finley, begins with being truthful about what we presently love.
There is a hidden part of you that knows, without thinking about it, how to always be perfectly relaxed, carefree, and in command. This higher intellectual and emotional intelligence is…[more]
In this revealing podcast, Guy Finley talks about how attending to the true needs of others also allows us to discover our own limitless possibilities.
In this podcast, Guy Finley describes a new kind of interior, conscious resolve in which a person ceases to tolerate the deceptive demands of negative states.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can experience truer, brighter, more meaningful relationships with everyone we meet once we learn to put the needs of others before…[more]
The weakness that blames others, explains Guy Finley, blinds you to your real inner condition.
Discover the authentic spiritual and esoteric secrets for truly transformational living.
In this podcast by Guy Finley, discover what it really means to love every moment of your life, no matter what it is that you need to do.
We must stop trying to create conditions for ourselves, explains Guy Finley, through which we hope to escape the fear of our own emptiness.
Guy Finley explains how whatever weight we seek to place on the backs of others simply falls back on our own.
Guy Finley explains that any part of us trying to drag us into a heated stew over "who" or "what" should be blamed for our pain is secretly working to…[more]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how any kind of blame is actually an avoidance of seeing yourself as you actually are in the present moment.
Guy Finley addresses concern about responding to the current financial crisis and stress over job loss, encouraging us to remain as receptive as we can to the lessons meant to…[more]
Guy Finley encourages us to look inward instead of outward for a reason why we're suffering.
Use your fear to come awake to yourself, says Guy Finley.
Guy Finley discusses the honest communication that is truly helpful when caregiving aging parents. Be true to yourself, honor your intuition, and refuse doubt in making the choices that fulfill…[more]
Guy Finley reminds us that each time we compromise ourselves without knowing it, we are asleep in that moment to what we are in relationship with.
Guy Finley explains how and why to let go of any negativity.
A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be…[more]
Why try and change your outer world, asks Guy Finley, when it is only a reflection of your inner life?
In this podcast, Guy Finley explains why we need not resist, reject, nor fear what the light shows us about ourselves.
Our real "problem" with others, explains Guy Finley, isn't that they won't or can't give to us what we want from them.
We must be willing, explains Guy Finley, to taste the bitterness of our negative states before we would feed them to others.
We can help others reach higher by simply agreeing, explains Guy Finley, to give them space to go through their changes.
If we want a whole life, explains Guy Finley, we must be whole human beings.
It is our fear of being alone, explains Guy Finley, that compels us to seek the approval of others.
Compassion starts with the understanding that every human being on the planet looks different from us -- because physically we are different -- but inwardly we all live in the…[more]
The first step in harmonious relationships is simple: We need only realize the spiritual truth that we cannot meet someone whom we are not like in some way, even if…[more]
When I look at you,
I am looking at me . . .
In a time or place
I have been, or will be.
The fear of being alone in life, explains Guy Finley, belongs to an imagined self.
Choosing inner seeing over the wish to be seen by others in a complimentary light, explains Guy Finley, stops the cycle of self-sabotage.
In this extraordinary podcast, Guy Finley reveals the higher understanding that is necessary to find the Truly Fearless Life!
Our experience of any passing event -- for the pain or pleasure of it, explains Guy Finley -- is the product of how we see it.
Real Life never disappears! In this special Memorial Day podcast, Guy Finley talks in detail about how Real Life is found in loving what IS.
Right within us, as an unseen aspect of our True Nature, resides the entire range of relationships that the universe has to offer.
Real spiritual growth does not happen automatically with the mere passage of time. A change in our outer activities does not lead to true change. In this podcast, Guy Finley…[more]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how there is nothing more important than to Be Awake.
We all know the sting of not getting the approval we seek from other people. And when we don't receive the approval, we double our efforts and try a different…[more]
Guy Finley explains that we are not here to make something of ourselves, but rather are meant to allow the Light to make of us what it will.
If we wish to live without resentments that linger in our hearts and rid ourselves of fear with all of its debilitating limitations, we must shed the skin of our…[more]
**The more I think I know about true spirituality, the more I become easily aggravated by the behavior of others, especially when I hear someone make an obviously false (spiritually)…[more]
One of the most shocking and necessary discoveries along the path, explains Guy Finley, is that what we love does not love us
Guy Finley speaks about the popular idea of a coming evolution in world consciousness.
A special writing by Guy Finley on what it truly means to be a peaceful and peace-filled human being.
The less pain we have over what life appears to deny us, explains Guy Finley, the more at peace we naturally become with ourselves.
Learning to let go and to live in the Now, explains Guy Finley, is the same as catching ourselves holding onto what limits us and then deliberately dropping these self-imposed…[more]
Every step along the way to a higher independent life, explains Guy Finley, is both the challenge and the reward.
Guy Finley explains the power in seeing that we are actively involved with unseen thoughts and feelings that compromise us.
We are create, explains Guy Finley, with the capability of realizing the timeless truth of ourselves.
What we put first in our lives, explains Guy Finley, is our first relationship with life.
It is not negative to see the negative in us, explains Guy Finley, since it is the perfectly positive that makes this kind of seeing into ourselves possible.
Many times the very thing we want from the person we are with, explains Guy Finley, is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise…[more]
Guy Finley discusses how to help our children grow spiritually by accepting a parent's true responsibility, which is to lead by example and nourish our own inner work.
The gradual higher awareness of others' pain, explains Guy Finley, is the birth of true compassion in us.
Letting go is about learning to die to ourselves psychologically, explains Guy Finley, so that something higher, something "undiminishable" can stand in for us.
The best to way to help others, explains Guy Finley, is to give them room in which to grow.
The path to a more compassionate life, explains Guy Finley, is found in our willingness to try to understand the moment instead of needing to be understood in it.
When we resist what life would show us about ourselves, explains Guy Finley, we effectively close the door on the Light that wants to help transform us by showing us…[more]
Guy Finley speaks about understanding the nature of discontentment and how to rise above its limiting influence (continued).
Guy Finley discusses the concerns of householders with regard to fulfilling responsibilities while on the spiritual path.
Nothing in the universe, explains Guy Finley, can prevent a man or a woman who wants to know Love -- who wants to rise to the next level -- from…[more]
We are spiritually free, explains Guy Finley, when not one part of us harbors any hatred or resentment for any other human being.
Each glimpse we get of any character shortfall within us, explains Guy Finley, invites us to walk the one true path towards its perfection.
In order to give others the space they need in which to grow, says Guy Finley, we must first make room within ourselves.
Growth, explains Guy Finley, is the marriage of something that already exists with something within us readied for that Union.
Guy Finley discusses a new approach to breaking the cycle of negativity involved in divorce where we take the focus off the other person and place our attention on a…[more]
Leading by example, explains Guy Finley, is often accomplished by what we don't do, such as by not passing negativity on to others but instead bearing it within ourselves.
Learn how to deal with parenting and family issues, including ways to use your interactions with children and loved ones to find a new kind of freedom.
Real faith, explains Guy Finley, requires unwavering immersion in the unknown territory outside of one's Self.
**I know someone who drives me crazy, and I want to help him by sharing the truths I am learning. Without using interfering tactics, how can we help others to…[more]
Guy Finley discusses what it means to have forgiveness and compassion for others, and the evidence of God's compassion for this world through request and response.
The greatest, most abundant resource on planet Earth is also its least understood and utilized. Its unlimited supply is found virtually everywhere, anytime, and under all circumstances, even though few…[more]
Kindness is something we all value and wish we are known for. Learn how to make kindness alive in your life.
Guy Finley explains that staying on the path to a truly awakened life requires continually saying NO to those unconscious parts of us that are full of doubt and darkness.
By working with our resistance to others, Guy Finley explains that we ultimately learn about our own true nature, out of which compassion is born.
Guy Finley discusses how we can raise our relationships to a higher level by understanding that the other person is never the problem when we feel hurt. It is not…[more]
Guy Finley shows how our willingness to face what is troubling us invites the healing forces that are necessary for our complete recovery.
Guy Finley reveals how we can invite the unknown Love and Understanding that is capable of perfecting our relationships.
The Secret of Pefecting Relationships
How to see without judging others!
Step back to see the thoughless nature of conflict and fighting.
Nurturing Love: How to be in True Relationship with another human being!
Using relationships for inner development.
Teach others in a right way about spritual principles.
The whole of our lives is relationship. The whole of our inner discovery takes place within relationship. Nothing can speed up our inner work better than working with someone who…[more]
The true spiritual path begins and ends with what you already are. Use these 10 insights to tell the world you've lost interest in being you.
Healing the cause of all pain and suffering!
