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The First Step Towards a Fearless Life Starts Here

Key Lesson: Learn to turn the things that you don't want to do in life into deliberate conscious actions, and it won't be too long before you'll want to do the things that you've always tried to avoid.

Liberate Yourself from the World of Resistance

Question: I've studied all the "right" teachings. I know what I need to do, but I don't! Why? It's like I'm frozen, and it's killing me... yet I have no trouble partaking in my self-destructive behaviors. Why is that? Any insights would be greatly appreciated.

Answer: You have reached a vital point along the path to authentic self-liberation: the great divide that exists between what a person knows vs. what he or she is capable of doing with that knowledge. As you're beginning to see, anyone can grow flowers while the sun shines; its another story altogether when it comes to acting from the light of what one knows is true to do in moments of darkness. St. Paul went through this same stage, and he reported on it with words to this effect: "I don't do the good I want to do, instead I do the evil I don't want to do!" So, you see, little comfort though it may be, you're not alone.

The reason that the "truth sets us free" isn't so much because of something that we're able to do with it -- with regards to trying to "fix" or control what's wrecking us or holding us back -- but rather through the always shocking discovery that, as we are at present, there is very little we can do that is real. By "real" I mean act in such a way that we no longer harm ourselves or others without knowing it.

To paraphrase your question, "What can I do to get unstuck and stop destroying my own happiness?" You've already seen the answer; you just don't want to see the truth of it for fear it means you'll be stuck with some kind of suffering forever.

The only place any of us get stuck is in the world of resistance... of not wanting whatever it may be that we fear about our self and its "life." It's very hard to see, but resistance is a form of attachment. But once this understanding dawns in us, as it must if we persist with our wish to be free, we stop fighting with ourselves to become something imagined. This also ends the disappointment we feel over what we have failed to become. Then we begin the real interior work of attending to the "self" that invariably traps itself in a world of its own unconscious wants and "not-wants." It is only in dying to this self that we are liberated from doing its bidding. What remains can't act against itself or another.

This article is an excerpt from, Life of Learning's Online Wisdom Center directed by Guy Finley.

For a deeper understanding of this topic we recommend The Essential Laws of Fearless Living.

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