It seems natural to fear moments we don't want, to avoid any knock at the door of some untimely event. But it's not these moments themselves that we are afraid of: what we fear is our reaction to them, so that we can't see that this experience we don't want... is actually the pain of a negative reaction as it unfolds within us.
In other words, whatever it is that you don't want is a part of you. And only welcoming that realization into the house of yourself reconciles it. Only in the light of awareness is the hatefulness, the irritation, the constant sense of disturbance, the stress, brought into a completely different order of relationship where transformation is the rule.
But do you welcome these realizations? Is the door to your inner home open? And to whom is your door open? If you're honest, the answer is that it's open to anybody that comes with a gift. It's open to anything you imagine about yourself when you see yourself as being someone who is kind, loving, or helpful. But when it comes to the impatient, angry, fearful, unilluminated forces that are going back and forth outside the door, you look out and see this dark thing, and say, "No!" and close the door to it because you don't want that in your house.
In order to find the shelter and safety we actually long for, we must learn to bear the manifestations of life's storms. Which means we must learn what it means to bear our own manifestations. And we must learn what it means to bear the manifestations of others -- not because we are a good person, but because we understand the nature of love. We understand what it means to change, and it doesn't mean changing myself, and it doesn't mean changing you. It means to continually place ourselves in the situation (which is all the time) where we have the choice to leave the door open. We're not going to shut it because we don't want to let what's seemingly "out there" in because we've begun to understand who we are and what we are on this earth for.
If you can see the truth of this in any measure, you must begin to practice what you know. You're going to have to agree to see. When you see that something in you doesn't want to agree to see, then you're going to know that now is the time you need to agree to see because if you don't agree to see, something in you is going to do what it wants to do... which is to close the door to self-illumination.
You have the rest of the day, the rest of your life. See how many times you can catch yourself slamming the door. How many times are you going to be willing to walk over -- in the heat of the moment, in the fear of it, in the certainty of "Oh no!" -- and open the door and take your seat? Don't do anything more than that. Inwardly take your seat and allow that which is prowling outside -- which is nothing other than a perception of yourself -- to realize that it is a pre-conceived notion. Let the truth of yourself be revealed by the light you have welcomed into the house of yourself, and everything changes accordingly.