There are parts of us that would rather be punished by unkind people than have to spend one minute being alone, because the only way these same parts in us can exist is if they have someone to resent or somehow fear. In this case we remain in these ruinous relationships because the fear or emptiness we feel in even considering leaving them seems to be too much to bear on our own. Here's the k...

Each time we see the need to let go of something -- a bad habit that drags us down, an unsatisfactory relationship, a career choice that can't complete us in the way we dreamed it would, or maybe unrealistic expectations of ours about others that eventually spoil our partnerships with them -- whatever it may be: what is it that's actually happened in these moments of honest self-examination? S...

In spite of how things may appear to us, we are never trapped by where we are. The trap is always who we are.

Though we often find ourselves feeling so, in truth... there is no such thing as being powerless. We see how a person who resists life -- who hates or fears unwanted changes -- becomes the instrument of a power that effectively renders him powerless to do anything but struggle. But we've seen the converse as well: the one who realizes that the only power negative states have is to create the i...

The secret purpose of that self-loathing nature in us -- that wants us to suffer today for what we could not do yesterday -- is not there to help us make straight our mistakes, but rather to ensure that we waste the rest of our days struggling to escape the ache of useless regrets. Awake! Detect and reject despair! It is not the guiding light it seems to be, but it is a cold heat that compromi...

Any time we pretend to be something we're not, we do so out of fear that without that "persona" to protect us we won't get what we want.

You can't change the kind of person you are later. There is no later. It's always now or never. You can't be kind later. And you can't learn later. Choose to change now, and that moment will never come for you to worry about how to be better next time. Why? Because your conscious choice for real change in the present moment automatically cancels the need for a better you in a better future...

Depending on others for a sense of independent psychological well-being is an accident waiting to happen. In any relationship where one depends on his or her partner to be their parachute and the other accepts this role, both will fall to the ground. You do not have to live with this kind of fear for one more moment. Give yourself permission to see the whole truth about human nature and its af...

Sadly for those deceived, and dangerous for the spiritually unwary they encounter, many humans have unknowingly abandoned themselves to dark spirits in exchange for the strong sense of self the presence of such negative energies provides as it courses through them. These souls who are taken over don't know their actual state as part of the "pleasure" in their condition is their certainty that...