In this short talk, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about the necessity of seeing truths about ourselves that the majority of us does not want to see. The "self" that fights with life, in order to get what it wants, does not want to fade away. It exists to desire, then expire its desires, and then imagine new desires. See the pain inherent in trying to keep that circle of "self" in place...

In this short talk, self-realization author Guy Finley talks about the benefits of a quiet mind, which includes the recognition and letting go of the pain that is inherent in the mind's judgment of both yourself and other people.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about the painful deception of fighting for one side in a conflict because we feel threatened by the other side. Nothing will ever change in any meaningful way by struggling on the level of the opposites. It is useless to try to change a world that is not interested in knowing what is useful to the soul.

In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy talks about how we often find ourselves in situations wondering how we got there, and how that relates to the fact that we do not own our attention.

In this question and answer session, Guy explains that we are not meant to be the servant of a mind that believes conflict is the way to solve any problem. Seeing the part of us that finds a peculiar enjoyment in conflict is the beginning of separating ourselves from it.

Topics covered: Be the observer, the conscious witness of what love is inviting you to see about yourself; There is a pain in me that I didn’t know was there; Learning to pick up the spiritual tab by living with your own pain; When you don't return unkindness with unkindness, old patterns collapse on the spot; Learning the lessons we’re meant to learn...

Topics covered: Letting go is an inside job; No one can "set you off" unless you have unseen expectations; We are already guarded when we meet people; Blaming others is a sign of a broken heart; When it comes to love and relationships, we are and always will be in training; Before any part of our heart can be healed, it must be revealed as broken; Giving your partner room to change...

Topics covered: The most important thing in any given moment is that I have to attend to "my" part of that moment, my responsibility; We never see ourselves at fault; There are two sides to every relationship; What can I learn in this moment about myself; Can I resist something that my partner has said or done without having an expectation of some kind; We accuse our partner of pushing our button...

Topics covered: Our partners are our biggest teachers; The story of Snow White and Prince Charming; How to turn around any relationship; Relationships are a resource and a tool for self-realization; Different kinds of negative reactions and pain; How conflicts unfold; We see each other as the source of our pain; Unseen expectations and demands; You can't fix another to fit your ideal...

Topic: Transform Any Painful Relationship into a Spiritual Triumph (Classroom Talk 4/3/24)