Part 1
You can no more separate a painful pattern in your life from the unseen part of yourself responsible for its return... than you can blame your face for the unhappiness you see upon it while looking in the mirror.
Part 2
If we want "all there is" -- the full measure of love, joy, a life without limitation -- then we must learn what it means to accept all there is - even when life offers us something that we don't want.