In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about the painful deception of fighting for one side in a conflict because we feel threatened by the other side. Nothing will ever change in any meaningful way by struggling on the level of the opposites. It is useless to try to change a world that is not interested in knowing what is useful to the soul.

In this question and answer session, Guy explains that we are not meant to be the servant of a mind that believes conflict is the way to solve any problem. Seeing the part of us that finds a peculiar enjoyment in conflict is the beginning of separating ourselves from it.

Most of us like sitting by a river and watching the water or anything else come downstream and then disappear in the distance. When watching a river, we don't usually focus on one thing in the stream and then resist it as it floats by. We are intended to be the observer of the stream of our interior life in much the same way that we would enjoy watching a river.

Student Talks: 9/18/2020 - Key Lesson: Spiritual freedom will never be realized by avoiding what disturbs us, but rather by the work of consciously illuminating what still dwells in the dark of us... that is (always) so quick to find someone, or something to blame for its pain.

Student Talks: 11/29/2019 - Key Lesson: The painful illusion of being held a captive of any painful limitation is the dark dream of a false self that loves to imagine it’s been thrown into a dungeon, so that then... it can plan an effective way to escape it.

Student Talks: 4/19/2019 - Key Lesson: Trying to assign blame to the stress between you and the one with whom you are in a struggle... is like trying to judge which side of the rope in a tug-of-war is to be blamed for the tension (in it).

Student Talks: 3/15/2019 - Key Lesson: The real reason we so quickly summarily resist or reject the suffering of others is because it reminds us of what we're unable to keep buried and out of sight in our own "backyard."