In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about the painful deception of fighting for one side in a conflict because we feel threatened by the other side. Nothing will ever change in any meaningful way by struggling on the level of the opposites. It is useless to try to change a world that is not interested in knowing what is useful to the soul.

Topic: See the Silver Lining Inside Any Struggle with Life (Classroom Talk 6/1/22)

Topics covered: Do our daily struggles with life serve us, or do we serve our daily struggles? The answer is that, presently, we serve our daily struggles; The individual components in nature often struggle against each other naturally in order to perfect nature as a whole; When something happens that we do not want, we typically struggle against the condition that seems to be against us.

Classroom Talk: 6/1/2022 - Trying to assess, and then assign blame to the stress that exists between you and whatever you may be struggling with in life... is like trying to judge which side of the rope in a tug-of-war is to be blamed for the tension (in it).

Topic: The Wisdom to Walk Away from Self-Judgment (Classroom Talk 4/20/22)

Topics covered: Whatever remains concealed can never be healed. What remains concealed is the cause of the conflict we have with ourselves and others; Self-judgment guards the door to self-renewal, convincing us that protecting the old is preferable over the new; Revelation of similarity to your neighbor is what leads to compassion and the end of conflict...

Classroom Talk: 4/20/2022 - No one is free who has an ax to grind with any other person, let alone who grind themselves down with painful self-judgment believing, in vain, that self-punishment is somehow connected to self-perfection.

In this question and answer session, Guy explains that we are not meant to be the servant of a mind that believes conflict is the way to solve any problem. Seeing the part of us that finds a peculiar enjoyment in conflict is the beginning of separating ourselves from it.

Student Talks: 9/18/2020 - Key Lesson: Spiritual freedom will never be realized by avoiding what disturbs us, but rather by the work of consciously illuminating what still dwells in the dark of us... that is (always) so quick to find someone, or something to blame for its pain.

Topics Covered: It is impossible to heal our pain and have someone or something to blame for it at the same time; Most people do not know what to do with their pain, and hardly anyone at all will seek out its true purpose; When we are in pain, there is usually no new understanding that comes as a result; there is only the certainty of why the pain is there and what should...

Classroom Talk: 9/13/2020 - Spiritual freedom will never be realized by avoiding what disturbs us, but rather by the work of consciously illuminating what still dwells in the dark of us... that is (always) so quick to find someone, or something to blame for its pain.

Topics Covered: The fear of reprisal is a form of regret before the event takes place; You don't have to prepare a way for yourself, the way is already prepared; The lower consciousness is a memorabilia collector; Find the pain itself, don't follow the reason given for it; Watching the sleeping consciousness try to tempt you; Pain always appears with the reason for it...