We all have experienced feeling angry and hurt when someone speaks their mind to us and is disrespectful. Being tolerant and nice only works to a point, and then we find ourselves unable to contain our feelings and helpless to deal with the anger we feel. In this Q&A Guy Finley reveals that the real question isn't, how do I stop getting angry with people, but rather, what can I discover about my own anger?

In this question and answer dialog, Guy talks about how regret over our actions does not change anything, while genuine remorse is connected to an awareness of our actual powerlessness, which allows for real change to take place.

Whenever we can't understand the nature of some unwanted situation we fall, by default, into the hands of a nature whose answer to this ache is always the same: get negative and then try to protect ourselves from anything that can't be otherwise controlled. The rest takes place in us on automatic pilot:

We can't have a true need without there existing that which is intended to fulfill it. But we have to allow the need to be there, wait, and watch the part of us that attempts to resolve the need with its own will. Then we discover that the resolution to any question we might have is within the question itself.