If someone can say something to you about yourself that causes you to crash and burn -- so that you never stop smoldering over what they have said -- it's only because you have yet to see the truth of yourself. Here's the fact that not only proves the above, but within it rests the only real solution to this kind of suffering: Any truth you realize about yourself cancels both the fear of that truth as well as the level of self that lives in fear of it.