Painful Patterns

You have always believed that the better people feel about you, the better you can feel about yourself. However, you may have never really considered that the opposite of this belief must hold equally and unhappily true, and that is: The less you are approved by others, the more alone and uncertain you feel. This helps to explain why you think you have to please people as well as why you resen...

Seeking and receiving approval from others is like sitting down hungry to an imaginary meal. You're invited to eat all you want, but no matter how much imaginary food is served, you can never get your fill. Your hunger remains. No fictional feast ever satisfies. But this fact isn't so apparent when it comes to our appetite for approval. We still look to others for our sense of self even thou...

The true spiritual path begins and ends with what you already are. Use these 10 insights to tell the world you've lost interest in being you.

Your conscious participation in inner exercises, such as these five practices, is the only way to awaken the will you need so that one day you never have to answer to any anxiety again!...

Until we realize that continually identifying with our own conflicting desires about how to win peace of mind is like using a cannon blast to light a candle, we will only remain at war within ourselves -- all the while blaming the world around us for its insensitive inability to grant us that imagined peace we so desperately seek! Let's illuminate, by example, a few of these conflicting desir...

Topics covered: It isn't your anger or fear or depression. They belong to a level of consciousness that is asleep to itself; The more we listen to conditioned reactions, the more we become a captive of that consciousness and suffer accordingly; The mind projects a negative and unavoidable tomorrow from its own conditioned content. It then reacts to its own projected image...

Topics covered: Everything we encounter is intended for the education of the soul. Both wanted and unwanted moments; Any question that you ask is only as valid as it is sincere; You cannot find peace in a future to come because the image of the future comes with the fear that something in life will interfere with the image; There is no such thing as psychological fear without negative imagination...

Topics covered: Relationships are the single greatest, unrecognized spiritual resource in the Universe; Waking up together means that you and I every other human being on this planet are in it together; The endless journey of love; Explanation of the story, Jerry McGuire; No one dumps on another human without the one doing the dumping being in pain; Shattering the pattern...

Topics covered: Discussion of the live-streamed series on Authentic Change; Having an intention isn't enough to make authentic change; Trying to escape what you're feeling versus really feeling what you are experiencing; A ""new you"" doesn't happen later, it's now or not at all; Being present to the movement of fear, anger, and anxiety within us; Learning to see that you are acting from an ""old...

Topics covered: A New Year, a New Life, a New You; We are made to be renewed, and have to learn to live where renewal is unfolding; What is a rut other than yesterday's dream?; To be a new human being doesn't mean something I do to myself; We are endowed with the capacity to explore our own consciousness; Remodeling the world around me is not the same as being in a relationship with the Divine...