In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that in an unwanted moment, we have the choice to be actively aware of the burning reaction, or we can be passive and allow the reaction to dictate our actions. The awareness of the consciousness that has the reaction is the beginning of our freedom from it, and there is no other freedom than that.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley talks about making an exercise for yourself as a reminder of your wish to not get carried away by habitual negative reactions when they appear.

Real reactions are wordless, soundless, and even without familiar content. They are just the expression of something timeless touching something in time. The mind talks to itself in order to define these reactions for its own purposes, using its own past content in a vain attempt to reconcile the moment. The true reconciliation of any reaction is built into the very moment of the appearance of it...

Classroom Talk: 3/1/2019 - The only way to defeat those dark states within you that forever bully you around is to realize that in the Higher Reality of your True Nature there is no rule that says push must lead to shove!

We don't usually think to ourselves that we're asleep and that our entire identity is the moment to moment fabrication of what we are reacting to in that instant. Until there is something that rides the waves of these reactions and sees them crest and fall, we will appear and disappear with every last wave. In watching the waves we will not mistake ourselves for being the waves.

Classroom Talk: 12/6/2023 - Go through some fear you're sure you can't... and come out on the other side stronger, wiser, and with more faith. Go around any anxious worry or doubt... and never come out.

Classroom Talk: 10/4/2023 - The consistency of any painful, negative reaction to some person or event doesn't prove -- as we imagine it does -- that the "guilty" party remains unchanged as "charged." Rather, what it does show -- at the very least -- is that it is we who are unchanged: an unwitting captive of being unconsciously identified with our own negative reaction.

Classroom Talk: 9/13/2023 - Trying to change any unwanted condition without first awakening to, and then realizing the nature of the consciousness responsible for creating it... is like blaming a mirror for what you don't like seeing (in it).

Classroom Talk: 2/22/2023 - Any form of some painful, or otherwise conflict-filled negative reaction only persists -- as such -- in a world whose creator assists with -- and supports -- the reason for the continuation of that suffering.

Classroom Talk: 11/16/2022 - Here is the self-evident, but seldom -- if ever -- admitted reason why we must do the difficult inner work needed for real self-transformation: if we don't rise above our present level of consciousness, we gradually come to incarnate the very weakness we claim to despise within us. To see the truth of this provides us with a reason, the will and the courage...

Classroom Talk: 11/2/2022 - The only thing (in life) that goes from zero to a million miles per hour -- in a single painful movement -- are negative reactions; they are the unseen source of all self-compromising choices, driven on by an almost limitless dark kind of "anti-matter" called unconscious resistance.