In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley provides some insights into how there can be resentment, antagonism, and hostility between two people who claim to love each other.

There is a part of us that wants people to be dependent on us. But the part of us that creates dependency in others is the exact same same thing that creates fear and resentment in us when we imagine that the other person will not behave in the way we want.

Classroom Talk: 3/1/2019 - The only way to defeat those dark states within you that forever bully you around is to realize that in the Higher Reality of your True Nature there is no rule that says push must lead to shove!