In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley provides some insights into how there can be resentment, antagonism, and hostility between two people who claim to love each other.

There is a part of us that wants people to be dependent on us. But the part of us that creates dependency in others is the exact same same thing that creates fear and resentment in us when we imagine that the other person will not behave in the way we want.

Classroom Talk: 3/1/2019 - The only way to defeat those dark states within you that forever bully you around is to realize that in the Higher Reality of your True Nature there is no rule that says push must lead to shove!

Classroom Talk: 11/1/2023 - When it comes to being in conflict with one another -- at whatever level or scale in which that painful relationship plays itself out -- each of us is responsible for what is happening to both of us.

Classroom Talk: 6/12/2019 - The sure way to guarantee that your suffering goes on unabated is to keep talking to yourself about it!

Topics covered: If you were present in your life, you would never have questions about it; Is there any value in revisiting failed past relationships; Relationship Magic also applies to your relationship with thoughts and feelings about the past; The past doesn't repeat itself, it's you that repeats; When thought examines thought, nothing changes; Are fantasies okay; Feeling stuck caring for s...

Featured Study Group Topic for the Week of September 24, 2018. It is impossible for one to awaken -- to realize a new mind and a new heart that carries no residue of resentment, let alone the image of some enemy -- until one sees the absolute uselessness of complaining about anything, to anyone... Including to ourselves about our "self."...

Classroom Talk: 10/25/2020 - The strength of any painful resentment we feel toward others has nothing to do with any troubling character we may judge in them; rather (it is) born of an unseen weakness in us that believes others have the power to either give – or take – something from us that we need to be at peace with ourselves.

Classroom Talk: 11/21/2018 - The past sits in constant judgment of the Presence moment; first comparing, then imprisoning it to the inevitable corruption inherent in the constant replay of one's own memory: (this is) a completely unconscious nature... that not only already "knows" how things should be, but that summarily resists any challenges to its carefully crafted reality.