Part 1
Unattended thoughts attract unwanted relationships.
Part 2
Identifying with any painful reaction is a form of negative fascination; it is an inverse form of Narcissism where we feel drawn to “stare” at -- to dwell on -- whatever may be that dark thought or feeling we’re so sure we don’t want to see. Stranger still, the more we resist the pain in our own unconscious attraction, the more attention we pay to it!