I am a minister and find your writing very true and helpful. The "toxic" person you speak of is truly damaging to healthy minds and bodies. This is my idea of one of the manifestations of "evil." I have tried to deal with this all my life with an older brother who is like a storm cloud on a beautiful day. He is so blasted negative! He comes around and sows doubt, despair, and hopelessness. He is so dark in his spirit. I don't want to be rude, but how do I avoid getting into it and not hurt anybody's feelings? I need to know how I can help him with this over-powering negativity. I would also like to help other toxic people to avoid this kind of "curse" that is coming to me for acceptance.
While truth can be tough to swallow sometimes, it heals as nothing else can help us do -- including our relationships with others. Many times what troubles us most about other people is not so much what they bring with them into our "home," but that we are afraid not to have company. So we compromise ourselves with their contaminated souls to avoid being alone. It's hard to see, let alone admit, but many times we would rather have someone around us to criticize than have no one at all (with us). And as far as hurting the feelings of someone who is an insensitive, negative beast, of course it's preferable never to hurt another, regardless of his nature. But something is wrong with our thinking when we think it better to live with bitterness than it is to be swift and righteous in our actions towards those who live to steal the sweetness from our lives.