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  • 5 Personal Practices That Put Anxiety Out of Business (Writing - 2/22/03)

    Your conscious participation in inner exercises, such as these five practices, is the only way to awaken the will you need so that one day you never have to answer…[more]

  • 10 Ways to Tell the World You've Lost Interest in Being You (Writing - 2/22/03)

    The true spiritual path begins and ends with what you already are. Use these 10 insights to tell the world you've lost interest in being you.

  • Painful Patterns (Writing - 2/23/03)

    Breaking out of old painful patterns, habits, and recuring problems.

  • Let Go and Know Peace (Writing - 2/7/03)

    Discover an altogether new kind of peace in your life as you learn to let go.

  • Let the Following Higher Hints Help You to Choose In Favor of Your True Self (Writing - 8/16/02)

    Use this list of ten powerful insights to begin choosing in favor of your True Self.

  • The Little-Known Secret for Owning Your Own Life (Writing - 4/5/03)

    Powerful insights from best-selling author Guy Finley show how we can bring an end to our punishing need for approval.

  • How to Live Life on Your Own Terms (Writing - 5/19/03)

    Guy Finley talks about how to escape the punishment inherent in wanting to be approved by others.

  • Helping Ourselves and Others Break the Circle of Suffering (Writing - 6/2/03)

    Guy Finley shows the one way for breaking the cycle of conflict, hatred, and pain that arise in human relationships.

  • Live in Harmony with Reality (Writing - 6/9/03)

    Guy Finley shows how we can begin enjoying True Success by agreeing to accept the lessons life has for us.

  • How to Make all of Life be Just for You (Writing - 9/15/03)

    In this short writing Guy Finley explains how we must revisit the same painful lessons over and over again until we begin to put the Truth first in our lives.…[more]

  • Start Seeing Through the Blame Game (Writing - 7/26/04)

    The question of why we find ourselves stuck in the same old rut, explains Guy Finley, can't be answered by the old self that asked the question in the first…[more]

  • Break Through to a Totally New You (Writing - 9/7/04)

    By rising above any self-righteousness that wants us to blame others for how we feel, explains Guy Finley, we gain an entirely new perspective on this useless reaction and learn…[more]

  • Take the Step that You're Sure You Can't (Writing - 1/1/05)

    Guy Finley shows us that, no matter how hard it seems to start fresh or learn something new, who you really are is greater than any part of yourself which…[more]

  • Enter the Great Estate of Your True Self (Writing - 2/5/05)

    No one ever feels small in life, explains Guy Finley, who hasn't first been fooled into believing that there is nothing bigger than those small thoughts and feelings through which…[more]

  • The Work and Reward of Just Being Yourself (Writing - 7/4/05)

    Looking for freedom in powers or possessions, explains Guy Finley, ensures that we will always be their captive for fear of losing them.

  • Free Yourself from Useless Fear and Frustration (Writing - 10/1/05)

    The root of that which is forever seeking acceptance and approval in us, explains Guy Finley, is that which is forever telling us that we are unacceptable as we are.

  • Walk Lightly Through Life (Writing - 12/11/05)

    It is not our life that must change, explains Guy Finley, but our view of our life.

  • Three New Choices That Dismiss Dark Conditions (Writing - 1/7/06)

    Guy Finley sheds light on the fact that negative reactions to unwanted events do nothing to cure them.

  • Be Careful What You Pray For . . . (Writing - 1/15/06)

    Guy Finley explains that our experience of life moment-to-moment is, in fact, what we have asked for.

  • A Rainbow in the Deep (Writing - 3/26/06)

    A special writing by Guy Finley which beautifully and poignantly explains that the world from which we sow is the world within which we reap. Originally presented at a classroom…[more]

  • Realize the Bright, Noble, and Ever-Ascending Life (Writing - 5/29/06)

    When we attempt to do what is not within our power, explains Guy Finley, we only succeed in making ourselves miserable.

  • An Advanced Lesson in Letting Go (Writing - 8/12/06)

    The real act of letting go, explains Guy Finley, is first an interior action, followed, if needful, by a wiser exterior action.

  • Practice the Principle of Being Present (Audio 7:38 - 1/23/07)

    Use the powerful principles presented in this talk to step out of the pain-filled worlds of imagination, and into the one True world of authentic inner-peace.

  • Dealing with Healing Ourselves (Writing - 9/11/06)

    Guy Finley explains the power in seeing that we are actively involved with unseen thoughts and feelings that compromise us.

  • You Can Conquer Any Condition (Writing - 10/16/06)

    The only power negativity has over us, explains Guy Finley, is the power we give it.

  • How to Start Planting the Seeds of Peace (Writing - 12/4/06)

    Guy Finley explains if we are ever to realize the integrity and consistent kindness of our True Nature, if we long to know something of heaven while we live on…[more]

  • Go from Storms to Sunny Skies (Writing - 3/5/07)

    Fighting the storm by resisting its winds and rain, explains Guy Finley, will do no good.

  • Wake Up and Walk Out of the Cell of Yourself (Writing - 4/28/07)

    Whenever we find ourselves in some "unwanted" part of ourselves, perhaps reliving an old heartache or caught in the throes of some irrepressible anger, old fear, or unyielding worry, part…[more]

  • Stop Struggling with Others (Writing - 8/13/07)

    When we're angry or resentful for what has happened in our lives, the real enemy is not ouside of us, explains Guy Finley -- it's what we don't yet know…[more]

  • The Spiritual Secret that Allows You to Defeat Any Discouragement (Writing - 9/24/07)

    Awareness is a living and intelligent feature, explains Guy Finley, of the ever-present Now within which it dwells.

  • Wake Up and Walk Away from Whatever is Pulling You Down (Writing - 10/21/07)

    We are here on earth, explains Guy Finley, to grow beyond the limiting influences of our own unawakened nature.

  • Snap Yourself Out of Psychic Slumber (Writing - 11/11/07)

    You may not be able to think your way out of a nagging problem, says Guy Finley, but you can see your way clear of it.

  • A Short Talk on Reincarnation (Audio 5:36 - 4/6/08)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley reveals the true, practical meaning behind the idea of reincarnation.

  • Challenge Fear's Right to Rule Your Life (Writing - 5/12/08)

    The seemingly scary condition, whatever it may be, is not the problem, says Guy Finley. It is your reaction that is fearful.

  • Liberate Yourself From Self-Limiting Thoughts and Feelings (Writing - 3/23/09)

    Guy Finley explains that we should do what's in our power and refuse to be discouraged about anything else.

  • End the Misery of Motivating Yourself (Audio 9:02 - 6/1/09)

    In this incredible podcast, Guy Finley reveals some startling, life-changing facts about motivation that, up until now, have been hidden in plain sight.

  • Six Eye-Opening Insights to Start True Self-Healing (Writing - 6/8/09)

    Guy Finley reminds us that the Living Light never shows us anything in ourselves that it hasn't already started to change for us.

  • The Secret Teaching of the Ages (Writing - 7/20/09)

    Guy Finley explains that a "prisoner" mentality is one that blames anything outside of you for the pain you have.

  • Turn the Light on What Stresses You (Writing - 8/10/09)

    Stress, explains Guy Finley, is a result of a false or incomplete view of reality imposed upon us by our own unenlightened nature.

  • 21 Ways We Waste Our Vital Life Forces (Writing - 8/17/09)

    Guy Finley reminds us that everything we need to succeed is forever raining down upon and within us.

  • Wake Up to the Complainer in You (Writing - 8/24/09)

    The following key lessons are taken from 365 Days to Let Go. Use their insights to help free yourself from the self-inflicted punishment of complaining. Until we become conscious of…[more]

  • This Key Unlocks the Door to an Unthinkable Freedom (Writing - 10/5/09)

    The next time you run into some familiar blockage or begin to feel unsuited to face some new and difficult personal challenge, don't do what you've always done before. *Don't…[more]

  • Practice Stepping Out of the Rush (Writing - 1/14/10)

    Intentionally separate yourself from any rushing inner condition, explains Guy Finley, by voluntarily stepping out of it.

  • Open Yourself to the Endless Resources of the Present Moment (Writing - 2/11/10)

    The only power dark, discouraging states hold over us, explains Guy Finley, is that they get us to identify with feelings of being powerless.

  • Break the Spell of Self-Limiting Negative States (Writing - 4/5/10)

    Your awareness of troubled thoughts and feelings, explains Guy Finley, is the power that keeps their harmful and self-limiting influences from having control over you.

  • Step Out of the Chains Called Self-Control (Writing - 5/28/10)

    You can wake yourself up, explains Guy Finley, just as many times as you're willing to catch yourself in daydreams where you're the star.

  • How to Discover Your Higher Possibilities (Writing - 7/9/10)

    In our willingness to journey to what seems the end of us, we are gifted with the understanding that there is no ending to our True Self.

  • Stay Out of Places that Steal Your Happiness (Writing - 8/13/10)

    We have the capacity to stop making ourselves powerless by waking up to having put ourselves where our powers are stolen from us.

  • The Courage to Stop Suffering Over Mistakes (Writing - 9/3/10)

    Real self-command dawns within us as we realize that reliving the past is powerless to change a present misunderstanding.

  • The Courage to Be Free (Video 4:40 - 7/29/10)

    Guy Finley speaks about topics related to his new book The Courage to Be Free including fear and fearlessness, beauty, kindness, love, and the authentic path to an enlightened heart…[more]

  • Take Yourself Off the Track to Nowhere (Audio 6:42 - 10/19/10)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley explains that true self-command becomes possible when we begin to consciously interrupt the momentum of the unconscious nature that is presently in control of our…[more]

  • Discover a New Way of Knowing Yourself (Writing - 10/22/10)

    No intention can be any stronger than our ability to remember it in the moment that it is needed.

  • The Simplicity of Natural Seeing (Audio 4:05 - 11/15/10)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the vast difference between mere ideas about spirituality and the direct perception of living spiritual principles.

  • The Secret Prayer That Renews You (Writing - 12/6/10)

    Before something genuinely new can appear in our lives, something old must pass.

  • Real Life: Lesson #1 (Writing - 12/27/10)

    In order for change to take place, we must be changed.

  • Break Out of Any Rut (Writing - 6/20/11)

    The first step to breaking out of any rut in life is to no longer enable the parts of us that keep walking in them while wishing they weren't so…[more]

  • Let Go and Learn the Truth of Yourself (Audio 5:53 - 8/27/11)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about why human beings are so addicted to stress and tension, and why it is so important for us to understand that something…[more]

  • Liberate Yourself From Your Self (Audio 7:58 - 4/1/12)

    In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the difference between merely thinking about spiritual ideas and the actual awareness of the truth of ourselves in the present moment.

  • End the Game of "Pain Pong" (Audio 6:00 - 3/22/13)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how most of the unnecessary struggle and conflict that we experience in this life is due to our habitual, unconscious fixation on recurring…[more]

  • Spiritual Baptism by Water and by Fire (Audio 3:28 - 4/26/13)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley discusses the need to be nourished by a new kind of understanding that appears when we can no longer tolerate giving our lives away…[more]

  • Don't "Dance" with Painful Thoughts and Feelings (Video 12:49 - 3/22/13)

    In this video, Guy tells an enlightening and entertaining spiritual story about a young woman who gets carried away with "dance partners" -- thoughts and feelings -- that don't have…[more]

  • A New Approach to Old Problems (Writing - 4/8/13)

    Life is always new, which means there is no such thing as an "old" problem.

  • Stop Picking Up the Pain of the Past (Audio 1:34 - 6/11/13)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley explains that if we will stop agreeing to "feed" the parts of us that produce unnecessary pain, then gradually those parts will stop growing.

  • Go Against the World That Wants to Carry You Away (Video 7:47 - 7/10/13)

    In this video, Guy Finley talks about how we must always make an effort to stay awake so that we can begin using life's currents and waves for our own…[more]

  • How to Escape the Prison of Monotony (Video 4:59 - 7/26/13)

    In this video, Guy Finley talks about how resistance to any moment actually produces a greater attachment to the life that we say we don't want.

  • Step Back from Self-Compromising Thoughts (Writing - 7/28/13)

    Before we can choose not to compromise ourselves, we must first become acutely aware of those thoughts of ours that may be holding some secret seed of self-defeat.

  • Heal Yourself and Heal the Past (Audio 6:16 - 12/26/13)

    Self-realization author Guy Finley explains in this short talk that happier, healthier and brighter relationships with others become possible when we begin to let go of painful grudges and resentments…[more]

  • How to See the End of All of Your Enemies (Audio 2:31 - 2/19/14)

    Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that it is possible for us to find complete freedom from the mechanical, enemy-making nature that presently tricks us into believing that it…[more]

  • Learn to Expose Unconscious Wrongness (Writing - 3/17/14)

    A crisis only becomes a breaking point when we fail to use it as a turning point.

  • See Through the False Bliss Called Self-Ignorance (Video 7:45 - 4/14/14)

    Guy Finley explains that we live in a universe of forces that are ceaselessly acting upon us, and it is only our awareness of these energies that allows us to…[more]

  • Drop the Burden of False Responsibility (Writing - 7/14/14)

    As we realize that there is no way that painful concern can positively affect any outcome, we drop that concern, and bit by bit, we begin to hear what real…[more]

  • Complete the Pattern of Life and Fulfill Its Great Purpose (Audio 4:57 - 8/5/15)

    In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how anything that is authentically new in life is the fulfillment of a pattern, which then creates a new pattern, which itself…[more]

  • Complete the Pattern of Life and Fulfill Its Great Purpose (Video 3:51 - 10/29/15)

    In this short video, Guy Finley talks about how anything that is authentically new in life is the fulfillment of a pattern, which then creates a new pattern, which itself…[more]

  • The Lost Secret of Making a Fresh Start in Life (Audio 3:15 - 3/8/16)

    Best-selling "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about the fact that every moment is new and untouched, and if we cannot see that fact it is because we are seeing…[more]

  • The Lost Secret of Making a Fresh Start in Life (Video 2:51 - 4/28/16)

    Best-selling "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about the fact that every moment is new and untouched, and if we cannot see that fact it is because we are seeing…[more]

  • How to Find Lasting Freedom in Spiritual Stillness (Video 11:49 - 8/17/16)

    Guy Finley explains that real freedom is not found through obtaining powers or possessions, but in understanding the "wanting" nature within us that feels a captive of anything that interferes…[more]

  • Discover The Way Out From the Harmful Effects of Anti Depressant Medication (Video 4:45 - 8/23/16)

    Guy Finley addresses the path to freedom from addictive medications. Change is possible, and we are created to be free from everything that now holds us captive.

  • The Spiritual Secret of Starting Over (Excerpt) (Video 6:28 - 2/23/17)

    In this excerpt from an hour-long seminar that Guy Finley presented on Sunday 2/12/17, he explains what is necessary for us to go through if we truly wish to live…[more]

  • How to Call on the Powers of Higher Healing (Writing - 3/6/17)

    The reason perfect love casts out fear is because any unwanted condition willingly embraced loses its power over us.

  • The Power to Dissolve Any Anxious State (Writing - 9/25/17)

    You are able to get past any fear when you understand that the only thing keeping you involved with the state is you.

  • Realize the Power that Ends All Painful Patterns (Excerpt) (Video 4:24 - 10/31/17)

    Life of Learning Foundation founder and director Guy Finley talks about the liberating idea that all discouragement is unnatural. Life brings us to painful points to actually help us transcend…[more]

  • The Real Reason Why Things Never Change (Video 4:07 - 12/13/17)

    Life of Learning Foundation founder and director Guy Finley Guy Finley reveals what we must do to change our experience of life and enter into a relationship with Freedom itself.…[more]

  • Liberate Yourself from the World of Resistance (Writing - 12/25/17)

    The reason that the "truth sets us free" isn't so much because of something that we're able to do with it, but rather through the always shocking discovery that, as…[more]

  • Only What is Real Can Change (Writing - 3/12/18)

    Make an aim for yourself... give yourself a task that you know you must attend to, whatever its nature. Just pick ONE... and keep it before you, at all times.…[more]