Though it may seem too steep a hill to climb, especially the first time we consider its ascent, nevertheless, here's the first step that leads to freedom from useless suffering: we must begin to doubt our own suffering. To this idea the masses cry, "Impossible! Pain as real as ours is undeniable!"
No one is saying to deny this pain or to otherwise pretend it's not there. Yes, the feeling of any pain is real, but here's what we must come to see if we would set ourselves free: all the excuses we're handed -- by ourselves -- for why we must continue to hurt ourselves are like flies that travel with trash. The only purpose they serve is to make something worthless seem valuable; garbage is garbage, no matter how it comes wrapped!
Consider closely the twin truths in the following summary. Within them rests the understanding -- and the power -- you need to start throwing useless suffering out the door:
The justification of any negative state serves one end only: the protection and the preservation of the nature responsible for its manifestation.
Any part of our nature that finds good reason to justify our pain is the source of that pain it justifies.