Any human being who has to hold himself together is someone who is ready to fall apart. Trying to hold yourself together is a terrible way to go through life. Our task is to prove this to ourselves. The fears of falling apart can never be quieted by adding more pieces to your self, such as success or the hopes of success. With this approach to life, you wear out faster, because you now have even more conditions you believe you must control in order to keep your life together. Consider closely the following higher insight. It reveals the intelligence behind your wish to let go.
Anything that you have to control, controls you. The problem with self-control is that it is part of a war inside of you. No one ever wins in a war! Let's look at this same idea again from a slightly different perspective. Whenever an uncertain situation arises, the mind works feverishly to resolve it in order to regain a sense of being in control. However, the more feverishly the mind works, the more out of control you become! You can see this for yourself. Anything that is afraid of losing control is already out of control: an accident waiting to happen. There is more, and we must see it all if we are ever going to rise above our present life-level to true self-certainty.
Whenever we picture ourselves, there is one image that rarely, if ever, enters into our mental movie: that of being someone who is ready to fall apart. But again, few of us see ourselves in any self-compromising light at all. We feel safe within the dimly lit theater of our own circle-of-self pictures, and we return to it often -- especially when the harsh light of reality starts to break through and show us that we may not be as together as we'd like to think. This is why we need the truth in our lives. The truth is what allows us to see reality without being frightened about what we see. Part of the truth's rescuing action is to reveal to us that we are not apart from what we see. From this unique, inner vantage point, the light of reality isn't harsh -- it's Home. The more of this light we can welcome into our circle-of-self and its cast of 1,001 self-images, the easier it becomes to let go.