Do we resist or embrace events that we do not want? The answer is that we resist them. And how much time do we spend not wanting what the moment presents to us? If we're honest with ourselves, the majority of our time is spent not wanting the moment. So we must come to the conclusion that, in large part, our lives are spent resisting life.
Can I get negative towards another person without first resisting that person? No, resistance must appear first. And what is it that we are actually resisting? Is it really the other person, or is it what our minds are telling us about the other person? Once the question is put to us, the answer is clear--it must be that I am resisting what my mind is telling me.
The real tormentor is this thought-nature that resists what it believes was produced outside of itself. This nature does not see that it actually creates the mental images that it then turns around and fights with. And that is one of the beautiful tasks we have along the inner path--to actually catch our own minds in the act of resisting what they have produced through negative imagination.
Is it possible to resist, to push away, what you don't want without also at the same time clinging to what you do want? No, it is impossible. "Want" and "Don't Want" are opposites that simultaneously appear together. The one does not exist without the other. Most of the time, all we can see is what we don't want, not realizing that at that same moment we must be holding on to what we do want.
Our lives to this point have been spent going back and forth between the opposites--just like the old "Pong" video game. But in reality, these so-called "positive" and "negative" forces--these opposites--do not oppose each other at all, but actually serve one another.
Is it fun to continually look at life and see nothing but what you don't want? Of course it's not fun, but unseen, that is exactly what goes on in our minds. What would happen if we received the whole moment instead of thinking that the moment was coming to take something away from us? The seed of that question is the beginning of a completely new relationship with real life, a relationship in which we know that we were made for everything that happens to us.