Guy's Letters

My mother died when I was only 12, and my father died just recently. He was 88. I have always fervently believed that someday I would be reunited with my parents, somewhere? But now I'm beginning to have doubts. Does everyone's energy just become something else and no one is ever again who they were? So in that case I would never be with my parents again?...

Why isn't there actually a "secret" or technique for fearless living?...

We have a wonderful and willful daughter who is 14 and can be a real challenge to parent. How can we help her with some behaviors that are not safe? It seems the trust is on shaky ground.

You have said that, "A person who is highly allergic to something usually craves what he is highly allergic to." But then you ask: "How can one body crave what creates conflict and destroys it?" Many people suffer allergies without the knowledge or means to really help themselves. Some of us can't always afford to choose "healthy" foods. Perhaps you have some words of encouragement to those wh...

You have said that there was a time when men and women understood that without a relationship with something higher, they didn't have a real life. Their lives were built on the understanding that they were working, growing, developing. They may have had jobs and families, but their lives were based in a completely different relationship with life -- a relationship that is all but gone today. C...

I have been trying so hard to meditate and to see myself as I truly am. I just can't help but wonder if I'm doing it right? I worry that I won't get it right before my body dies and then I won't be able to enter the kingdom. If God is a loving God then why would he make it so difficult to reach Him? What if I can't figure out what He wants of me? Do I go to hell because I didn't do what was ne...

My sister died yesterday, but the weeks preceding her death were filled with some horrific incidents involving choices her husband made (refusing her pain meds, chastising her for not trying hard enough, not letting anyone help her, keeping family members out). Needless to say the entire thing was way more painful for everyone than it could have been. We do feel that now that we know who is re...

I divorced my husband just over two years ago after a 20+ year marriage. He was on a path of self-destruction and I could no longer be a part of what he had become. His decline accelerated over the next two years until this morning when he called to tell me he intended to kill himself and he just wanted to say goodbye and thank you for trying my best. A part of me is attempting to convince mys...

Vernon Howard was a bit harsh in his assessments of people. He believed you shouldn't help others. I think we all need help because many of us are blind. Would you help anyone that came to you, even "undeserving" people? Aren't we all undeserving? Vernon spoke of "super-sickies." Are there such people?...

My mother died this year and I have never felt such agony of grief. To say I am tortured in my misery would be an understatement. I admit that I neglected my mother and I accept responsibility for that. But even if I dedicated the rest of my life to serving others, it wouldn't compensate for the suffering I caused her. It is a given that I should not take my life. For me to try to alleviate my...

In your book on Breaking Codependency, you refer to "desire" as us wishing for something. For me, desire is a natural impulse to create in the universe. Without it we would never be compelled to move. Don't you think that the word "want" more accurately expresses the lack we feel when we don't have something and the sense that having it will complete us?...

Many founders of Eastern religions (like the Buddha) came from wealthy backgrounds and had no practical experience of life. Contemporary gurus like Krishnamurti also were financially well off. So can a person with no "real life" experience apply these teachings? Aren't these "rich man's" teachings? If I am down and out, would it be the best time to take up these teachings?...