Guy's Letters

My 20-year old daughter died six weeks ago. I understand that grief is a process. I don't want it to take the best of me, but I know it's important to let it run its course. Any words of advice are appreciated.

If I ever needed higher help, I really need it now. When I came home yesterday from work I found that my wife had moved out and emptied the house. She and the children left without leaving a note or even letting me know where they are. This has been the worst year of my life, with money and children problems. Please help me. I am going crazy because I know I always did the right thing while we...

I have difficulty with the simplest of decisions, so very large ones -- which become laced with all kinds of interesting details and coincidences -- occupy enormous amounts of my energy and time. Do you have any helpful insights into these stressful moments of having to make decisions?...

Do you have any suggestions for making use of idle time such as waiting in lines, traffic, doctor offices, etc.? I feel bored with my job and my life in general. In the past I would have looked for a new job or a time-consuming hobby. Can self-understanding clear up the boredom, or should I take outward steps to do so? I am not motivated by my present job. Is there inner work I can do to relie...

Many Christians have made translation changes to the original Bible and I appreciate your interpretations of the original Aramaic. When Christ talks about the three "talents," was he talking (in the Aramaic) about money or inborn abilities?...

With all the unrest in the world and Christians who talk about end times, I have to admit that I am very concerned about what is in store for the world, our country, and for my family. I believe in God and I don't want to live my life worrying. I do believe that one day we will all be in heaven and in peace; it is just the process of getting there that scares me!...

Whatever I endeavor to do spiritually, I find I have to almost fight with myself. I have always been a person of prayer and now am trying to look at self-love vs. self-hate and loathing. How do you pray without the stupid part of you screaming at you to shut up? These absurd thoughts while praying are so disturbing because I feel like I am losing touch with the Divine. Lately I have tried to j...

I am a minister and find your writing very true and helpful. The "toxic" person you speak of is truly damaging to healthy minds and bodies. This is my idea of one of the manifestations of "evil." I have tried to deal with this all my life with an older brother who is like a storm cloud on a beautiful day. He is so blasted negative! He comes around and sows doubt, despair, and hopelessness. He...

I was wondering if you could share with us how you got started in creating the Life of Learning Foundation? I have thought about starting something similar, and would appreciate your advice.

My son is born again and he says anyone that isn't born again will not go to heaven. How can this be? I was baptized a Christian in an Episcopalian church. What about Catholics? He drives me nuts with his know-it-all attitude on the Bible. I have a gay brother and he is the most wonderful person in the world and he is also Christian as he was also baptized and believes in God. "Born agains" ca...

Finally after 47 years I understand and feel the desire to understand the difference between the true self and the false self, and to clean up my life and my mind. When my mind starts to wander (which is almost all the time), I practice bringing myself back to the present moment. I am committed and really want to do this. However, I am feeling quite anxious and lost each day. A lot of uncomfor...

My son and his wife are going through the rocky first stages of divorce, which of course is very painful. I haven't had any contact with her for a few months. My daughter tells me they could use some help with money for some of my grandkids' needs. Do you feel under the circumstances that I should offer to help, or should I just wait until things are more settled?...