Guy's Letters

I am aware of the need, value of, and willingness to say to a negative disturbance: "You do not have my consent." I know that withdrawing my consent from being conflicted can dramatically shift my experience of the moment... but it also does not necessarily resolve the source of disturbance I have unknowingly created. How do I discern when additional options might be more appropriate or fruitful?...

I have been as faithful in this journey as I possibly can for well over twelve years and I can't understand why I can't break through. Day after day the fight goes on... I suffer the battle, yet still can't break through. I am really at my wits end. I am so done with this nature that is always stalking me, hounding me, and won't leave me alone!...

I've heard this maxim again and again: that you'll repeat an experience until you no longer need it or resist it. Yet I know of more than one person who left a boss, spouse, or friend because they were fed up with the relationship. None of them claim they grew in wisdom or grace or some other form of enlightenment. They claim the only thing that changed was that they woke up to the fact they w...

I recently went through two life changes -- my cat died and my boyfriend broke up with me in the space of a few days. I had experienced major depression prior to this, but when these unfortunate events happened, I suffered so greatly that it transcended into a spiritual awakening. Reading your books and listening to your podcasts has shifted my entire perspective of my self/suffering, and over...

In your book The Secret of Your Immortal Self in the chapter entitled "Growing Into a Love That Lasts," you write: "Don't try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures. Instead, strive to please love... and in this you will please what is capable of being loved in one another." My question is this: How do you please love?...

Do you have anything that will help eradicate the fear of death? I have experienced this for years and it makes my life miserable. I have tried many therapies over the years (which I have paid a fortune for), all to no avail. Actually I have an obsession with this fear as well as the fear of illness. I think the fear of illness really is that I would get an illness that would be terminal. I be...

I have followed you for many years, and now I need a little encouragement. I am 84 years old, and pray a lot. Years ago, I was told I had brain problems... and now I am on my way to Alzheimer's... not a good prospect. A message from you and your knowledge will surely help.

Outside of being a living example, what are the best ways to help children be awake and stay awake so they can avoid a lot of the traps that lull them into being less than true to themselves and keep them from drifting spiritually asleep? I try to teach them that love is not an affection you have for someone because of how they make you feel. I try to give them boundaries that are not based on...

I am going to get married within a few days. I know there can be a lot of conflicts and misunderstandings in married life... which I think is natural and happens in all families. But since I have always been a follower of your teachings until now as a bachelor, I want to know how can I keep following in the right direction in my married life to live a happy life with my wife.

I am usually so busy... it is sad how I rush through everything. I know life was not meant to be this way. I admire the place where you are in your life and that you have found fulfillment.

When quieting the mind, are you still in touch with conscience, the part of you that allows you to distinguish between right and wrong? For example, there are things I wish I could do (that are not good for me), but my conscience keeps me doing the right thing. If my mind grows completely still, will I have to be constantly asking myself if certain things are right or wrong?...

For some years I have had problems with sleep. I fall asleep but awaken after a couple of hours and have difficulty going back to sleep. I have had all the sleep tests to eliminate physical problems. It seems that since I began my attempts at self-awareness and meditation, the situation has worsened. I can lie there even with what seems like a quiet mind, or at other times asking for understan...