Guy's Letters

In your book on Breaking Codependency, you refer to "desire" as us wishing for something. For me, desire is a natural impulse to create in the universe. Without it we would never be compelled to move. Don't you think that the word "want" more accurately expresses the lack we feel when we don't have something and the sense that having it will complete us?...

Many founders of Eastern religions (like the Buddha) came from wealthy backgrounds and had no practical experience of life. Contemporary gurus like Krishnamurti also were financially well off. So can a person with no "real life" experience apply these teachings? Aren't these "rich man's" teachings? If I am down and out, would it be the best time to take up these teachings?...

I work consciously every day with many of your suggestions to overcome inner resistance, doubts, etc., but I have one problem I don't know how to crack... as a 7 year old kid I developed juvenile rheumatoid arthritis. Until age 21 I followed medical protocol but since then I have wanted to work with this illness mainly as an emotional, energetic problem. Twenty years later I have had mostly go...

I am convinced that I was somehow "urged" to pick up "The Secret of Letting Go." It was all so simple, yet to me it was absolutely profound. Since then, I have listened to many of your talks. I began trying to meditate, and over the years life slowly began to open up before my eyes.... Naturally, there is still much growing to be done, but thanks to your work and others like you, I have experi...

I have a problem that I just can't seem to shake: I can't seem to be faithful. I know it's wrong, but I just don't learn my lesson no matter how many times others, including myself, have been hurt. I'm so full of regret. I'm lost, disenfranchised, and have only hurt others and drawn them away from the light as well. I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing on this earth but know for certain...

I have recently started "seeing" a lot of things others cannot see. In my culture we believe that this is a gift from the ancestors. Since I can even see the death of someone before it happens, I am expected to go through a ritual to enable me to communicate with my ancestors. This is supposed to make me a powerful spiritualist. However I know that this form of spiritualism is connected to the...

I like my job. It's challenging... but I don't get the inspirations from within (as I used to) to work harder for upgrading my knowledge. Instead, I feel drawn to my old addictions... which finally drain all my mental energy, leaving me regretting. How can I give a full stop to my addictions and get inside inspiration to become disciplined in my work. I know I am capable of many things, but du...

All my life I have struggled with not having enough money. I have been playing the lottery and I do not know if it is wise to indulge in such ways. I want to see what has been holding me... I grew up in a very abusive environment with an angry father and a hard working mother who my father always humiliated in front of us. Being African I sometimes feel I have been placed under a black magic c...

How is it possible to learn a lesson again and again (the spiritual idea of experiencing a "box within a box"), where each time you see something new?...

Given my personal circumstances, I'm not able to understand how your statement, "it's very hard work to make something (so big) out of what really amounts to nothing," fits for me. Untimely death and other hardships that have impacted my family have resulted in much pain... not to mention the unbelievable hurt of being punished for someone else's actions. How does all of that "really amount to...

I've had lots of problems in my life, stemming from a drug addicted single parent, an unfortunate marriage, and my own addictions, but I figured since I always seemed to land on my feet, it was all good. Now I find myself faced with a problem to end me once and for all: I have been purposely and disgustingly humiliated by some of my co-workers, and I just want to die. I can't go on with this s...

I've spent so much time learning, to catch deeply what it means to see the difference between the false self and my real nature... but in spite of all that, I'm unable to stop being dependent. My relationship with my girlfriend is about to end and I suffer with that situation. I can see that she has a bad image of me and I do not recognize myself; the way she looks at me is hurtful - almost un...