Guy's Letters

What is the best way to remain aware of ourselves and our thoughts so that we stay anchored with consciousness while studying or doing any other work?...

I have decided to finally cut off an ex-boyfriend and his friends because they were pursuing a lifestyle I felt was unhealthy and wrong. I tried to use your way of viewing things around my ex, in an attempt to be his friend and perhaps help him, but he took offense to it, not wanting to deal with my view at all. I am heartbroken at so many people exiting my life at once. Was I too pushy with m...

My sister's husband abandoned her, and she is left angry and hurt. She has asked me how to get past this. How can I help her? (From student correspondence)...

I spend my days fulfilling my responsibilities -- to family, job, etc. I know I should find time to slow down, to meditate, but this stressed life seems to be what I was brought up to live! I'm trying to be a good person, but these responsibilities are weighing me down. How do we release ourselves from the idea that we own these energy-draining responsibilities in the first place? And then how...

Why did God, in his infinite wisdom, create a situation for humankind that would allow for so much pain and suffering? There seems to be so much wrong and dark today...how can the Divine be behind such things? What are we to do with what life brings to us -- that we are sure just isn't "right" -- especially when we can look out and see so many horrible things taking place on our planet? Someti...

Is the Work basically about seeing the negative and ignoring it? What if a co-worker is a "constant relentless" negative person that looks to fault you (and most others) every single minute he can without any sign of ever slowing down to anything I have thus tried already? Is it okay to inflict physical pain on someone if attacked? Finally, is it okay to feel good about yourself and feel power...

Recently I have been wondering about how painful it is to be identified with things (people, intentions, etc) and whether it's possible to actually separate what I give my attention to and what I want from that "act?" Can attention and identification actually be separate? (From student correspondence)...

I find that my body often responds to an event or situation before I have a choice of how to react in the moment. It is as if there is a type of memory at a cellular level that "remembers" fearful or stressful past events and responds for me, to my own detriment. Any insight you could offer would be appreciated. (From student correspondence)...

I have tried to think that I am okay and don't need to change, and that the rest of the world is crazy. Yet, I do use TV, reading, etc. as a distraction from the suffering and pain of my reactions to life -- to my worry, anxiety, fear, and anger. You've said that we can't fix this self that the suffering creates and tries to fix at the same time, and that we need to let God see our suffering.

In our world, being successful is linked to making a good living. With fear running rampant in the new realities of our global economic situation, making a good living appears harder and harder to achieve. It seems we need a new definition for "success"! It certainly does relieve stress when you can afford to buy the things you need... but how do you know when you've crossed the line between b...

I am listening to one of your tapes on the freedoms we don't have when we want to say things to people. It came across to me that I don't say what's on my mind at times. But when I'm annoyed or sometimes tired, I say what's on my mind without any hesitation! (Student correspondence, 2/19/07)...

By this time next month I will not have enough money to pay my rent, car insurance or to even buy food. Winter is coming. I have read The Secret of Letting Go. I'm doing my best to follow that advice, to let go of fear, but my reality right now is that in this physical world I am not being taken care of. There are no jobs in my hometown. I've applied everywhere. I have no money to move. So w...