Part 1
True humility -- the higher state of being born only of agreeing to see, consciously, one's own helplessly-conflicted mechanical self -- is the holy humus required for one's rebirth.
Part 2
What is any psychological suffering -- that always unexpected shockwave of anguish in some uninvited moment -- other than the agonizing effect of the difference between what we expect -- want, or demand life to do for us, versus what Life is asking us to be in that same exact moment?