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Short but powerful quotes by Guy Finley will inspire you throughout your day.
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Shop eCoursesMany of the letters and calls I receive from students revolve around a certain theme that I thought I'd take a moment to discuss here. For simplicity's sake, I will paraphrase this somewhat concern/question, which goes something like this:
"As I work on my self, grow through and into new understanding about my present nature, I seem to run into problems with former friends and family members who just don't seem to understand what I am going through and doing with my life! In fact, the more I try to explain myself, and help them see what's actually happening, the worse things get. It seems that by trying to be a mirror for them, so that they might see themselves as they really are, the more my intentions backfire!"
And now for some insight into this "sticky-wicket" called wanting to be a mirror for others…
If we try to "show" someone the state of his or her interior life, by acting as what we think is a mirror for them, i.e., tell them how much fear they have, how mistaken they are with present choices, the extent to which being identified with their negative energy betrays them, etc, then, as we have already started to witness, we create nothing but resistance in them. The reason this happens to us and with others, as it does, is as follows.
A mirror never tries to reflect the objects in it; to reflect the objects appearing within it is its very nature. The mirror is without choice; it doesn't care how others feel about what it reflects back to them because it is indifferent towards its own content. It just reveals what has come into it; that's all.
What happens to aspirants along the way is that they get around others who have no awareness at all of their states, their hidden motives, etc, and, because the aspirant has begun awakening to these same vibrations in themselves -- these energies that formerly had been so suppressed as to be fully unrealized -- they begin more or less to directly experience the state of the person they are around (who doesn't even know their own state).
But, because the aspirant is still just "learning the ropes" of these new orders of their own interior reality, they resist the presence of the state being resonated in them by the presence of the one being unconsciously punished by it. It is due to the pressure of this as yet unrealized resistance that the aspirant then tries to tell the "other" person what's wrong with him or her. And, of course, because the aspirant is him/herself expressing the same state as what he or she would correct, there is increased conflict between the parties instead of the imagined peace one hoped for at the outset through trying to "teach" the other what is wrong with them.
All of this is to say that when we truly act as a mirror for someone it's because we are not resisting the state he or she is in, but instead we are quietly aware of its (often painful) presence within us. We suffer this similitude willingly, understanding now why the person we want to correct is in the conflict that he or she is. We know their pain directly, and do nothing toward it in ourselves or try to "fix" them.
This state of conscious self-awareness, and the sacrifice that comes with it is the true mirror; there is no division between the reflection and the reflected; they are one. And in this (higher) state a healing can take place that can't be imagined because there is no longer anyone trying to do the healing, nor is there the one to be (judged) healed...just the light of awareness that changes all that enters into it.
Of course there is more to this than words can say, but these notes will give you a good idea of what needs to be done, and what one should cease from doing when it comes to "helping" others. The law is...as Christ said so simply, "Physician, heal thyself."
Physician, heal thyself (Blog)
Posted by Guy Finley in 459 Galice Road, Merlin, OR 97532 on , and updated on .
BEST-SELLING "LETTING GO" author Guy Finley's encouraging and accessible message is one of the true bright lights in our world today. His ideas go straight to the heart of our most important personal and social issues -- relationships, success, addiction, stress, peace, happiness, freedom -- and lead the way to a higher life.
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