To Help Another, See Yourself
To Help Another, See Yourself
  • Posted: September 23, 2013
Key Lesson

Whatever we do to encourage others, encourages us as well because -- in truth -- there is no separate self. The more we understand this, not only are we willing to extend a helping hand, whatever that may be... but we're also much less likely to judge another because... we've seen that we are the other.

Summary

I know I should not worry about certain things in life; however, what am I to do when loved ones have chosen things that are not in keeping with the things that they have learned? What can I do to keep them safe and to guide them back on the right road?

Inner work is not about trying not to worry. It is about seeing that worry doesn't work. How can a person who gives away his or her own life to every passing negative state (regardless of its seeming cause) hope to guide someone else? If you want to help another, free yourself, or at least make that your sole intention. From this work, and its upward-trending results, you will have new answers to help yourself and your loved ones.

I know that when I look at people, I end up judging them on superficial things. I also know that this hurts my relationships as well as myself. I want to stop. How do I turn this judgmental nature off whenever I see something in someone that doesn't meet my approval?

The idea is not to try to turn off this nature, but to come awake to the actual experience of yourself that you have in these moments. Resisting thought does nothing. Learning to "taste" what judgmental thoughts bring to your inner table will teach you to leave the establishment called yourself.

It seems to me that we are always looking for faults and weaknesses in others... are we just covering up inferior feelings within ourselves?

By and large, everything we condemn in others is just a way of hiding something similar within ourselves.

The more I think I know about true spirituality, the more I become easily aggravated by the behavior of others. I sense that part of my anger is seeing the inconsistency and false behavior in myself. What is the right way for me to handle these moments?

Stay with yourself. Don't put yourself into what you observe. It doesn't matter what anyone anywhere is doing or saying relative to your potential for inner development. The expression "The buck stops here" is valuable as long as we understand it to mean that these recurring blasts of unconscious energy we experience in moments such as these are to remain conscious within ourselves. We must not attribute their cause to someone or anything else outside of us. When we work with this truth and its instruction, then we begin to die to the blame-casting nature.

Excerpted From: Seeker's Guide to Self-Freedom: Truths for Living, pages 169-171

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