There is no "self" without relationship. In reality, the observer and the observed do not exist apart from one another. However, in the absence of higher awareness, the lower level of self believes that it is separate from what it sees as being outside of itself. This is the source of suffering. The gift of being able to see that the observer is the observed is the reconciliation and the end...
Student Talks: 4/19/2019 - Key Lesson: Trying to assign blame to the stress between you and the one with whom you are in a struggle... is like trying to judge which side of the rope in a tug-of-war is to be blamed for the tension (in it).
Student Talks: 9/20/2019 - Key Lesson: There is only one thing that fears seeing ANY fact about ourselves: an imagined sense of self that is frightened by anything that may reveal it as being false.