10 Words to Help You Walk Away From Useless Suffering

Life brings nothing that is useless. Suffering is useless to us, but it is of use to a lower order. We have an invisible complicity with unconscious suffering. We suffer only for suffering's sake, but we can suffer for the sake of our soul. Suffering can be transcended. Freedom from self-wrecking behavior comes from seeing how we're involved in it. We can't separate life experience from our nature. We are not meant to be victims of stinging thoughts and feelings.

We think that by hating our suffering that we are different from it. We drive our own suffering. We are allowed to choose what we receive from life, once we awaken to the fact that we have that choice. We can choose not to be part of it at all. We have the right not to be negative. Our pain is due to an unbalanced self-understanding. Self-knowledge only comes through self-discovery within. When I change what I understand is good, I change what I attract to myself. We don't see our own thoughts and feelings as our mortal enemies.

Shadows can't hurt you. They are without substance, but we give the shadows power. Our own fear makes it real. A painful event is a shadow of something that was and is no more. The mind brings up images. We try to resist them mechanically and that makes them real for us.

The pain is real but the cause of the suffering is a lie. There is something in us drawn to the disturbance, the very thing we hate. What is in me that wants to revisit the echoes of things that have passed? I need to say, "I will not participate."

Ten words to say to walk away from useless suffering: "The feel is real, but the why is a lie."

As soon as we want to get rid of a pain, we are conspirators with it. We must understand the pain out of existence. The self that keeps suffering alive is useless. We must practice conscious doubting.