The grand illusion and, in the end, the unseen source of psychological fear and pain is our unconscious perception of disquieting moments that "tells" us we are not responsible, let alone accountable, for the unwanted experiences that come our way. However, the "perfect love that casts out fear," along with its pain says otherwise, as follows: our experience of life, whether for its beauty or bitterness, is a ceaseless revelation of the role we've played in the creation of life leading up to that moment. If we want a different, happier experience of life, then we have to learn how to experience these unwanted moments in a holy New Way. Such knowledge gives birth to "truth that sets us free."