My 20-year old daughter died six weeks ago. I understand that grief is a process. I don't want it to take the best of me, but I know it's important to let it run its course. Any words of advice are appreciated.
You are right to suspect that, left unattended, natural and healing grief will grow into something unnatural and destructive for you. There are two main things to realize: First, God is Good, and that love never dies... never. So while the image we once had before us -- in the person of the one that made us feel this love may be lost -- its absence is not the end of love. Which brings us to the second point: If we will remember the Light -- the love we have and feel for the one now no longer with us -- then we can't be tricked into falling into dark states over their absence. For all such grief that relishes the self-wrecking states that it gives rise to is not born of love, but of a certain kind of selfishness that is the antithesis of love. Lastly: as we grow in understanding these painful conditions, and our consciousness is enlightened because of our inner work, everyone we know -- living or not -- is helped and made stronger.