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Question: I'm just wondering about when you're in a moment with someone, and you feel this discrepancy between your point of view and their point of view. And you're somewhat aware that you're identified, and you're causing pain, but you barrel through the moment anyway. And it's not until you weren't in the right place at the right time, et cetera. But later, you feel remorse. Is there a value in that remorse? Or is it only in the moment of that flash of light in the actual moment when you're doing it?
Guy's reply: Okay, I understand the question. First, we have to understand there's a difference between regret and remorse. Regret is always that I didn't live up to the image that I have up myself in that moment. And I'm comparing what I did to who I think I should be. I regret that. That changes nothing at all. Remorse, on the other hand, is the deep awareness of my own powerlessness, that's remorse. That's where real prayer starts, too, Denise. So remorse is the awareness of powerlessness, and that awareness of powerlessness is the aha that follows the moment that you missed. Does everyone understand that? Is it too subtle? Our work is to move, as it must Denise, everybody. Sweet god, how are we ever going to get over this idea that we're perfect? No, we are the ground of the revelation of perfection, but this instrument, this body, this mind, these sentences, are so far from perfect other than in their perfect ability to be the expression of the marriage of this. I'm in pain because I'm a mess. I mean, I'm working studying for 40,000 years, and I still find myself in some frustration. God, what a wreck I am. Know how you love to listen to something in you that can't wait to condemn you. But the aha is the recognition that I've been condemning myself, regretting myself for all of this time, and not one thing has changed for all of that pain. Why? Because it's useless pain. Ah... the revelation of useless pain turns useless pain into something that produces aha. Then you've got something.
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Student Talks: 5/14/2021 - Key Lesson: Admitting to ourselves we are powerless to make permanent changes in ourselves is the true beginning of rising above all that troubles us about ourselves; for any and all such unadorned confession is the invisible entrance into another, higher order of being that is transcendence itself.
Many times, darkness is the medium, sorrow the seed, and the subsequent humility conceived in these trials is the divine garden in which our soul flowers.
Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that we can either be embroiled in regret and resentment over the cruel behavior of someone from our past, or we can stop agreeing to hurt ourselves in the present moment by becoming aware of our unhealthy relationship with these dark states.
One of the things that makes letting go seem so difficult is the way in which our spiritually asleep mind looks at life: it sees cause and effect as being separate operations. This means our usual action toward anything that troubles us is to struggle with letting go of that unwanted effect. The problem is our usual reaction blinds us to the fact that the actual cause of our unhappiness is not...
Understanding the Difference Between Regret and Remorse
Posted by Guy Finley in 459 Galice Road, Merlin, OR 97532 on , and updated on .

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