Guilt / Regret

In this exchange with an online viewer, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about a critical stage in the inner development of spiritual aspirants in which a necessary sense of emptiness appears after letting go of painful attachments.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that the authority of negative states such as depression will gradually come to an end when we clearly see and understand the part of us that derives its life from wallowing in the negativity.

Unwanted life lessons repeat themselves again and again. Why? Because we keep talking to ourselves about them. Whether they happened two minutes -- or even 25 years ago -- we talk to ourselves about things we regret or feel guilty over. In fact, the mind almost never stops talking. Something triggers a thought that is the left over, undigested energy of an event that was meant...

In this short video, Guy explains that judging ourselves for not being better than we are is both self-hatred and self-love at the same time.

In this short video, Guy talks about how, when it comes to our relationships, the opportunity to do the right thing always exists, even when something tells us that it is too late.

Following is a small excerpt from a "fireside chat" between Guy Finley and Dr. Ellen Dickstein as they explored the topic of The Power to Release Regrets and Get Over Guilt. Guy: We don't "learn" the way that we think we learn... which is by reliving things. No one learns anything by reliving a situation. Ellen: This reminds me of something you said that I found very interesting...

In this question and answer dialog, Guy talks about how regret over our actions does not change anything, while genuine remorse is connected to an awareness of our actual powerlessness, which allows for real change to take place.

Every creature in nature has work that nature has given them to do. They must do this work in order to survive. They have no choice, and their work doesn't end until their bodies pass. There is no stress or fear in what they are given to do. We as human beings also have work that we have been asked to do in this world, both practical and for the sake of spirit.

Whenever painful events happen, they tend to fall on only one of two sides of a person. The first side is the denial side. When turning this way, refusal rules. Regret, self-pity, and endless explanations generally follow. Or, the unwanted moment falls on the angry side, where the turning is to burning. Resentment rages. Hatred and feelings of betrayal mushroom into....

Guy Finley explains that you would never sense that something is stealing your life if there weren't the presence of a higher nature within you that made you aware of it.

Guy Finley explains that the only way out of any painful circumstance is through a transformation in our understanding of who we really are and what's possible for us.

Guy Finley explains that when we lend our attention to considering any worry, blame, regret, or resentment, we have unknowingly agreed to be commanded by that negative state.