Helplessness

We all have experienced feeling angry and hurt when someone speaks their mind to us and is disrespectful. Being tolerant and nice only works to a point, and then we find ourselves unable to contain our feelings and helpless to deal with the anger we feel. In this Q&A Guy Finley reveals that the real question isn't, how do I stop getting angry with people, but rather, what can I discover about my own anger?

In this question and answer dialog, Guy talks about how regret over our actions does not change anything, while genuine remorse is connected to an awareness of our actual powerlessness, which allows for real change to take place.

Whenever we can't understand the nature of some unwanted situation we fall, by default, into the hands of a nature whose answer to this ache is always the same: get negative and then try to protect ourselves from anything that can't be otherwise controlled. The rest takes place in us on automatic pilot:

We can't have a true need without there existing that which is intended to fulfill it. But we have to allow the need to be there, wait, and watch the part of us that attempts to resolve the need with its own will. Then we discover that the resolution to any question we might have is within the question itself.

Classroom Talk: 9/11/2024 - For anyone with ears to hear, there is but one question and one answer: will we wait patiently for a single moment of relationship with what is eternal and real? Where - by the ineffable touch of something as unknowable as it is timeless - all the moments of our life - past, present, and future - are forever changed? Otherwise, we waste the precious few moments of our life chasing the pleasure of an imagined time to come that recedes from our grasp in the same instant that we reach for it.

Topics covered: You can never be prepared for what you are given to see. However, you can understand the need to see what you are given to see; The only way you can come to the end of "you" is to see the necessity for it; There is anxiety behind the part of you that wonders when and how it will be done with what it has to go through; Having an interior dialog with yourself about a problem does not solve the problem. Instead it adds weight and...

Classroom Talk: 5/22/2024 - It's impossible to let go of any painful moment until we lose interest in the troubled sense of self that we are deriving from it! So that the real secret of letting go begins with seeing how (our own) unconscious nature doesn't just reach to "catch" the experience it says it doesn't want, but then clings to it...