Every one of us knows -- from somewhere deep in the heart of us -- we were not created to spend our lives contesting whatever dominates us in the moment. And yet, we can see how each unwanted state that washes over us is replaced by another state of some similar ilk.
It's pretty clear: we're never truly in possession of ourselves, unless we believe that not wanting to be unhappy or anxious is the same as being calm and content. Our sense of self is on a kind of "spin cycle" running through a series of alternating states where, for example, resentment washes over us until it's replaced by some form of guilt or regret; then guilt is washed away by a feeling of trying to find or give forgiveness. And we feel better until another cycle starts... again.
So now we must ask ourselves, "How can any order of consciousness that continuously repeats itself request anything genuinely new from life?" The answer is clear. It can't; which means we must abandon all hope in our usual way of responding to what challenges us. What's needed is a whole new way to ask life for what it is we really want -- to live from an unshakable self that cannot be made to act against itself or anyone else. This is where new and true self-knowledge is irreplaceable, as is about to be made self-evident.
Your True nature is something already greater than any self-compromising state, much in the same way as the ocean shoreline is greater than the waves that pound it. Your True Self is the unshakable Ground over which all "waves" of thoughts and feelings both move and break. And just as light doesn't fight with shadows for fear of what they portend, neither need we ever do anything towards our interior troubles except meet them from this timeless Ground within us. This willingness to be inwardly still and take no action towards our interior troubles is one and the same as our new request. How so? Deliberate non-action towards whatever threatens to wash us away is the same as asking our God to lift us above these troublesome waves.
The beauty of making this new kind of conscious request is that the rescuing response to it is immediate -- only in ways formerly unimaginable to us! Here's just a hint of what we see each time we "choose the higher Ground" instead of habitually identifying with negative thoughts and feelings:
We realize these various mental and emotional states are visitors, not who we are. We see that while negative states are within us, they are not our true nature any more than super-heated deep-sea vents are the same as the waters they warm. And by our choice to remain aware of their presence within us -- instead of identifying with the pain they bring -- we are instantly "transported" to that higher Ground within us: a higher state of our present self that dwells worlds above the waves that used to sink us. Only then and there is the real difference evident between Self and its states, just as a man standing on the beach knows the difference between sand and sea.
Practice this new interior understanding that starts with remembering the truth of yourself. Each effort will reward you with the growing realization that any time you start to feel miserable it's only because you have mistakenly identified with who and what you are not. Learn what it means to seek out and stand on the unshakable Ground of True Self. Be one with who you really are and the waves of a thousand passing worlds cannot wash you away.