Abuse

In this excerpt from an online Q&A with Guy, he converses with an attendee about how we can always choose to start over with any difficult relationship.

Guy Finley explains that you can't change a situation you don't want without first changing the nature that got you into it in the first place. Unless that nature changes you'll fall back into the same patterns and attract the same people and unwanted events. Seeing the situation from a higher view reveals the lower level you've been acting from. Then real change can happen.

Guy Finley explains that anyone who remains in an abusive relationship of any kind does so only because of his or her own weakness and unconscious agreement. As we work to separate ourselves inwardly from the false belief that we cannot live without the acknowledgement of others, we will come to know true inner freedom no matter what our exterior conditions may be.

Whenever we act cruelly toward another, it's because something cruel "takes over and handles" the moment for us by doing what it remembers to do.

Your True Self doesn't win in life by overpowering problems, but by revealing they never really existed as you once believed they did.

Once we realize that our present view of self, a view that defines our reality, is a construct of a certain level of our own consciousness, we also realize the need to leave this self-limited world behind us.

There is nothing in the universe that can stop us from growing, except our habitual, mechanical nature.

There are parts of us that would rather be punished by unkind people than have to spend one minute being alone, because the only way these same parts in us can exist is if they have someone to resent or somehow fear. In this case we remain in these ruinous relationships because the fear or emptiness we feel in even considering leaving them seems to be too much to bear on our own. Here's the k...

My husband drinks too much. The problem I have with that (aside from it being deadly to his health) is his mean-spirited attitude toward me after he drinks. He says negative things about me that he would not normally say while sober. The crazy thing about it is, the next day he is repentant, telling me how much he loves me and how he would be nothing without me. How do I elevate myself above c...

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