Abuse

In this short video, Guy talks about how revisiting the past is a present pain that produces more unnecessary, useless suffering. Catch the temptation to revisit the past and realize a life that is being fulfilled and completed in the present moment.

In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains how healing from something bad that happened to us in the past begins with observing and letting go of the part of us that finds a peculiar thrill in reliving the event.

In this excerpt from an online Q&A with Guy, he converses with an attendee about how we can always choose to start over with any difficult relationship.

Guy Finley explains that you can't change a situation you don't want without first changing the nature that got you into it in the first place. Unless that nature changes you'll fall back into the same patterns and attract the same people and unwanted events. Seeing the situation from a higher view reveals the lower level you've been acting from. Then real change can happen.

Guy Finley explains that anyone who remains in an abusive relationship of any kind does so only because of his or her own weakness and unconscious agreement. As we work to separate ourselves inwardly from the false belief that we cannot live without the acknowledgement of others, we will come to know true inner freedom no matter what our exterior conditions may be.

Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that we can either be embroiled in regret and resentment over the cruel behavior of someone from our past, or we can stop agreeing to hurt ourselves in the present moment by becoming aware of our unhealthy relationship with these dark states.

Whenever we act cruelly toward another, it's because something cruel "takes over and handles" the moment for us by doing what it remembers to do.

Your True Self doesn't win in life by overpowering problems, but by revealing they never really existed as you once believed they did.

Once we realize that our present view of self, a view that defines our reality, is a construct of a certain level of our own consciousness, we also realize the need to leave this self-limited world behind us.

There is nothing in the universe that can stop us from growing, except our habitual, mechanical nature.

We are not here to change other people. Whether or not someone else wants to change has nothing to do with us. We can change. We can use the resistance, cruelty, selfishness, and negativity of others to turn our attention around and see what it is inside of us that rises up to protect the images that we have of ourselves. When we see clearly the parts of us that want to fight because of someo...

Those with whom we assemble we will soon resemble, so the simple old saying goes. Yet it tells of a deep truth. It says that who we are -- the stuff of our soul at present -- is being transformed continuously by the nature of the company we keep; so that, in our essence we are always moving and evolving towards a kind of psychic oneness with whatever relationships we have revolving around us t...