In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that a genuine resolution to psychological pain will never be found within the very system that produces the pain in the first place. Awareness of this fact is the answer that you're looking for.

Student Talks: 4/29/2022 - Key Lesson: It is a distinct stage in the development of the aspirant when -- rather than being easily distracted by some imagined consolation for his pain, or by concluding who is to blame for it -- his first and real preference in that dark moment is to increase his awareness of his condition, and not to find ways around it.

Topics covered: The way you walk out of dark moments is that you stop walking into them. So-called dark moments cannot be separated from who and what you think you are in those moments; We cannot separate a dark moment from the unconscious resistance to that moment; What we call a dark moment cannot be separated from the level of consciousness that meets and reacts to that moment...

Classroom Talk: 4/24/2022 - It is a distinct stage in the development of the aspirant when -- rather than being easily distracted by some imagined consolation for his pain, or by concluding who is to blame for it -- his first and real preference in that dark moment is to increase his awareness of his condition, and not to find ways around it.

When we have moments where someone or something does what is upsetting to us, we look out and see a world that is out of order, do we not? And the pain we are experiencing in that moment cannot be separated from our perception that this person, this thing is wrong and out of order.

Topics Covered: What do we all really need in this life? We need to be loved; Everything we do in this life, however mistaken or incomplete it may be, is for the sake of feeling loved. But there is an immense difference between feeling loved and being loved. Feeling loved is a desire; being loved is an action; In order to love you as myself I must first stop trying to make you into me.

Classroom Talk: 12/26/2021 - Many times the best gift we can offer another is what we're willing to keep for ourselves; for instance, rather than burdening others with our fears and doubts -- or judging them for the same -- we choose, instead, to bear this pain in conscious silence. So that not only might we realize a spiritual strength that can't be awakened in any other way...

Topic: Detect and Drop Useless Thoughts that Are Dragging You Down (12/1/21 Classroom Talk)

Topics Covered: Blame is the same as avoidance of seeing yourself; Every creation is given, every day, what it needs to work; Discovering the truth of yourself is the same as discovering where energy has heretofore been wasted; ATUTS is "Addicted To Useless Thinking Syndrome"; The thing that you are addicted to has power over you only so far as you believe in its power to free you from pain.

Classroom Talk: 12/1/2021 - The more we think about what's wrong with life, with others, or about ourselves, the less we see this self-evident, but simple truth that once realized... helps set us free: the more we think about any disappointment, or the prison of some lingering pain we can't seem to escape, the more we are made a captive of those very same thoughts.

Student Talks: 11/26/2021 - Key Lesson: The more we dwell on something in our life that we wish wasn't so, the more we soak ourselves in negative energies created by our own resistance. The longer we soak, the more we suffer; the more we suffer, the more we resist what seems to be the unwanted event when, in truth, what we are really drowning in... are the dark dreams of our own sleeping consciousness.

Topics Covered: The physical body has the ability to heal itself when we don't interfere. However, most of us are so distracted that we don't even know when our bodies are falling apart; Healing happens from the inside-out. Pain is asking to be healed; Why doesn't our interior, psychological body heal in the same way that the physical body does? If we could heal ourselves...