In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley explains that a feeling of frustration with another person is the downstream effect of carrying around an image of ourselves as being perfect. Never blame another human being for how you feel. The condition that you blame for the painful feeling of impatience is not outside of you.

There do come to us in our lives, for any one of innumerable possible reasons, certain conditions that challenge the very fabric of our being. Certainly, none of us would think to ourselves, "I wish upon myself these difficult circumstances," and yet the truth is it is through and because of these same unwanted moments that we are granted the opportunity to meet parts of ourselves...

If you haven't noticed this yet about yourself, it's easy to see in others: we each seem to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. The nature of this burden may change with age. When young, we feel the weight of having to choose a direction in life. As adults, we feel encumbered by all the perceived requirements of an active life: trying to control events...

How can someone be given so much and -- rather than being grateful for the abundance of these gifts -- be so negative over a single element in the midst of them? Closer examination of such a situation, and the inconsolable level of self that gives rise to it, may show us that we have more in common with this discontented character than not. It's impossible for us to...

Topics covered: You're not going to find what you really want outside of yourself; Unless we have an actual love of something, we usually take the path of least resistance; Limitation is always an invitation to revelation; We always do what we value; Becoming is an illusion because it requires imagination; Keep it RRRIL - Relationship, Revelation, Realization, Integration, Liberation...

Topics covered: Our partners are our biggest teachers; The story of Snow White and Prince Charming; How to turn around any relationship; Relationships are a resource and a tool for self-realization; Different kinds of negative reactions and pain; How conflicts unfold; We see each other as the source of our pain; Unseen expectations and demands; You can't fix another to fit your ideal...

Topics covered: A New Year, a New Life, a New You; We are made to be renewed, and have to learn to live where renewal is unfolding; What is a rut other than yesterday's dream?; To be a new human being doesn't mean something I do to myself; We are endowed with the capacity to explore our own consciousness; Remodeling the world around me is not the same as being in a relationship with the Divine...

Topic: The 7 Elements of Enlightenment (5/12/21 Classroom Talk)