Anger

Who is in charge when anger takes over? Guy explains that we often don't realize something else is controlling us in moments of stress or resentment, and invites us to, instead of reacting, pause and ask, "Who is in charge?" Stay with the question without rushing to answer. This awareness creates a crucial separation between our True Self and our reactive nature. Remembering this in the moment can lead to real inner freedom.

Guy answers a viewer's question about giving up anger and self-judgment when a friend shuts you out. Discover ways to navigate relationships with understanding and compassion. We spend so much time measuring ourselves, hoping to come out ahead, yet measuring inherently contains the "short stick."

We all have experienced feeling angry and hurt when someone speaks their mind to us and is disrespectful. Being tolerant and nice only works to a point, and then we find ourselves unable to contain our feelings and helpless to deal with the anger we feel. In this Q&A Guy Finley reveals that the real question isn't, how do I stop getting angry with people, but rather, what can I discover about my own anger?

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that it is not enough to simply say that you are no longer going to be deceived by negative states such as fear and anger. If you ever want to be free and in command of your own mind, then you must begin to taste the bitterness inherent in those poisonous negative states...

In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains that we so often end up feeling bad because we get captured over and over again by something that promises freedom, but in the end delivers nothing but unnecessary pain.

There is a part of us that wants people to be dependent on us. But the part of us that creates dependency in others is the exact same same thing that creates fear and resentment in us when we imagine that the other person will not behave in the way we want.

Try to catch the part of yourself that can't wait to pick up negativity and then learn how to set it down before you get caught up in its momentum. You will find that to set it down requires that you first set yourself down.

"Letting go" author Guy Finley tells a story about an owner of a golf driving range befriending a young player who, despite being a newcomer to the game of golf, does not let frustration get the best of him. Not getting negative over our mistakes allows us to learn from them.

Guy Finley explains that when we lend our attention to considering any worry, blame, regret, or resentment, we have unknowingly agreed to be commanded by that negative state.

Whenever we don't want a particular condition and then attempt to push it away, we actually strengthen the condition that we say we don't want. To see this dynamic taking place as it happens causes a separation from that level of self that falsely believes that it can feel better about itself by resisting life.

Guy Finley explains that when strong energetic forces such as anger, rage, and anxiety appear in us, we can either deliberately use them for our spiritual growth, or they will be unconsciously misused and squandered through resistance.

In this brief sound bite, Guy Finley talks about the root cause of all the pain and anger we experience when something that we thought we possessed is taken away from us.