We're often led to act against ourselves by an undetected weakness that goes before us -- trying to pass itself off to others -- as a strength. This is secret self-sabotage. It sinks us in our personal and business relationships as surely as a torpedo wrecks the ship it strikes. Any person you feel the need to control or dominate -- so that he or she will treat you as you "think" you should b...

Who among us hasn't found themselves conjuring up some imagined pleasure when faced with the pain of some contradiction in life that seems greater than our ability to deal with? If we're honest, we can see that most of our time is spent identifying the so-called cause of our discontented conditions, and the rest of our time is taken up trying to change our unwanted situations into what we ima...

Guy Finley explains that we all have natural preferences in life based on our individual make-up and conditioning. But when life doesn't match up with our preferences, the pain and negativity we feel is not because of the event, it is because of the part of us that has become unnaturally identified with the preference itself.

In this brief sound bite, Guy Finley talks about the root cause of all the pain and anger we experience when something that we thought we possessed is taken away from us.

In this short talk, Guy Finley discusses the importance of understanding the idea of "levels and scale" inside of our own consciousness, so that we can gradually begin to break our identification with the familiar sense of self that is produced by the level of mind that unconsciously talks to itself.

Real self-command dawns within us as we realize that reliving the past is powerless to change a present misunderstanding.

When you think that who you are is connected to something you are not, you are identified with it. To make this clear, think about how you felt the last time you accidentally scuffed your brand-new shoes or tore your brand-new pants. It felt like it was you who got damaged! Remember? That's what it means to be identified with something or someone. It hurts! None of this is too difficult to und...

We must attend to our practical responsibilities. That is part of being a human being. But there is no inherent pain in fulfilling the natural purposes of this physical life. Pain comes in when we turn a natural purpose into something personal and become identified with a role that we believe we have to keep in place. When a purpose of ours has run its course, we must be willing to see the ne...

Our attention connects us to life; it establishes our relationships with all that unfolds around and within us.

When we are hurt badly, the higher lesson hidden in this trial is to recognize the time has come to let go of who and what we have been up until the moment of loss.

There is a lot of conflict inside of an aspirant's heart. As an aspirant of a true spiritual life, you will run into many inescapable contradictions. Please read following sentence very carefully. There's no difference between not wanting a reaction that punishes you, and wanting to have a reaction that does not punish you. Wanting something and not wanting something are opposites that cannot...

Once we start to see, to know in our innermost heart, that life itself is already complete, we can let go of whatever -- or whoever -- would have us believe otherwise. Old attachments and their long-standing aches are now seen for being what they have always been: appendages of days gone by, worthless to the Higher Self we have agreed to become and by whose stillness we realize this need for a...