In this short talk, bestselling "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how we can understand painful tension in a new way so that, instead of being tormented by it, we use it as a source of revelation and release from the false self that blames everything outside of itself for its pain.

Human beings walk around in a kind of self-made suffering that is the expression of something in us that is afraid of seeing ourselves as we are. We've come to think that avoiding a unwanted fact about ourselves is the same as escaping the effects. Our lives should be a ceaseless realization of where we miss the mark, because that is the only way to transcend the idea that...

There are unique challenges for the human being who wants to have a relationship with the source of his or her being. We try to control events outside of us in a futile attempt to find a fearless life, when our energy would be better spent attending to our inner lives. Yet at the same time we are in a body and we do need to take care of our basic householder responsibilities...

You must learn to think of relationship as a mirror; Something in us is afraid of seeing deeply into our pain; The more I don't want something and avoid it, the more complicit I am in its continuity; You actually have seen the truth, but you just don't want to see it; The dreamer cannot change the dream; There's no fear in a fact; The work slows down thought; Thought can't help you...

Topics covered: Real love isn't selfish; Our minds are undeveloped; We start every moment from an assumption of strength; Everything you can see going on within you is beneath the self that can see; Who and what you really are is out of the ordinary, but we live from an ordinary self; You're so anxious because you're always trying to prove yourself; Nothing in you needs to be protected....

Topics Covered: The more you speak something with all of yourself, the more all of you becomes what you speak; The past doesn't trail you, it meets the moment with you; We currently use our relationships to validate ourselves, but we're meant to use them for revelation; I don't want to meet the pain, I don't want to meet the moment as I am; The strength of God is connected to my weakness; Your...