Conflict

Topics covered: Be the observer, the conscious witness of what love is inviting you to see about yourself; There is a pain in me that I didn’t know was there; Learning to pick up the spiritual tab by living with your own pain; When you don't return unkindness with unkindness, old patterns collapse on the spot; Learning the lessons we’re meant to learn...

Topics covered: Letting go is an inside job; No one can "set you off" unless you have unseen expectations; We are already guarded when we meet people; Blaming others is a sign of a broken heart; When it comes to love and relationships, we are and always will be in training; Before any part of our heart can be healed, it must be revealed as broken; Giving your partner room to change...

Topics covered: The most important thing in any given moment is that I have to attend to "my" part of that moment, my responsibility; We never see ourselves at fault; There are two sides to every relationship; What can I learn in this moment about myself; Can I resist something that my partner has said or done without having an expectation of some kind; We accuse our partner of pushing our button...

Topics covered: Our partners are our biggest teachers; The story of Snow White and Prince Charming; How to turn around any relationship; Relationships are a resource and a tool for self-realization; Different kinds of negative reactions and pain; How conflicts unfold; We see each other as the source of our pain; Unseen expectations and demands; You can't fix another to fit your ideal...

Any experience we don't want cannot be separated from our negative reaction to it; in truth, what we are actually disturbed by is being caught in the middle of an unseen conflict born of not wanting to experience our own unconscious reaction.

Topic: Transform Any Painful Relationship into a Spiritual Triumph (Classroom Talk 4/3/24)

Topics covered: When does the world change? When you change the way you see the world; The blessed ones through the ages have tried to convey the idea that you need new eyes to see what is in front of you all the time but that you don’t currently see. And the reason you don’t see is because the impressions that are intended to produce a real change are deflected by all kinds of buffers — beliefs, conditions, longings.

Classroom Talk: 4/3/2024 - When it comes to conflict between us, and any other -- let alone a person we may love -- anytime there's some kind of painful drama being enacted... each of us is responsible for whatever continues to be played out on that stage.

Topics covered: Give people something to be against in the name of the greater good, and they will not notice that they are actually against the greater good; Integrity is relationship with a Conscience that does not belong to any one single individual; People fight over the meaning of love, not seeing the contradiction due to being so identified with their position; Have you ever noticed that no matter how many things you seem to reconcile...

Classroom Talk: 3/6/2024 - Part 1: When fear creates morality, as well as the rules governing them, there is no longer morality... and it is fear that governs. Part 2: That we should search only our own conscience for confirmation of what is good and true, this is the best definition of integrity; for that which is good and true is not social in nature, but spiritual in need and in deed.