In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy talks about how we suffer uselessly every time we attempt to be seen as someone special, which is the same as avoiding awareness of ourselves as we are.

We already have all the pain that we need to change, but none of it is conscious. Until it becomes conscious, it is impossible to change. We live in illusion, perpetuate the pain, and even add more to it whenever we avoid seeing our actual condition in the present moment.

Guy describes an important, pivotal point in an aspirant's work, when you consciously die to the part of you that is afraid of rocking the boat with family and friends and you instead choose to not go along with the actions of others that you know are not in anyone's best interests. This is what it means to die for what you love.

Student Talks: 3/15/2024 - Key Lesson: Being is a conscious relationship with what is now; knowledge is a relationship with what was, the conditioned content of the past.

Student Talks: 11/24/2023 - Key Lesson: The single greatest unseen cause of premature aging, stress-related health issues, and ultimately of death is... the deeply mistaken, agonizing idea that somehow our constant struggle to control the outcome of any moment we fear will one day free us from these moments we fear.

Student Talks: 10/27/2023 - Key Lesson: Any time the mind makes a "package" out of some unwanted moment -- wrapping its reaction (to it) in familiar troubled thoughts, and negative feelings -- it does so at the cost of exchanging a priceless gift it's been given... in favor of giving itself another painful experience (of itself) that it doesn't know it's created for itself!

Student Talks: 7/14/2023 - Key Lesson: When the winds of fortune blow hot or cold, sweet or sour, don't lean toward one or away from the other. Instead, remain upright; only the balanced mind can walk safely over and through the uneven surfaces of this world.

Student Talks: 7/8/2022 - Key Lesson: Part 1: Unattended thoughts attract unwanted relationships. Part 2: Identifying with any painful reaction is a form of negative fascination; it is an inverse form of Narcissism where we feel drawn to "stare" at -- to dwell on -- whatever may be that dark thought or feeling we're so sure we don't want to see. Stranger still, the more we resist...

Student Talks: 5/6/2022 - Key Lesson: Part 1: Until we can see that unconscious identification sits at the root of all useless suffering nothing real can change for us -- let alone within us -- save for what we're moved to imagine -- and then identify with -- as the next new solution to our pain. Part 2: False 'I' is a disease. Real I is the healing. Awakening is the prescription...